Are....you....kidding me? - Page 5

RachelleDrew · #41 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 12:41 AM

Thanks for all the thoughts folks. Just for those of you who are concerned, i've already been tested for STI's and AIDS/HIV. Several times in fact due to his indiscretions. *sigh*

I've spoken with a lawyer who is highly recommended in my area. He seems to be willing to work out some form of payment plan for the hourly work. He's also knocked a good chuck of money off the retainer fee, which is quite gracious of him.

I've told my husband that we are finished completely and utterly; of course the boo-hooing and apologies began. I'm tired of it. I am convinced it's not sincere and if it IS sincere he is so mentally disturbed that he cannot possibly keep his word. He flexes in and out of psychiatric care, and never sticks with it. Whatever.

Whatever is really the only word I can come up with to describe my situation. I'm somewhat flippant about it at this point because i'm just done. I will admit though, I will truly miss being a wife. It's what i'm good at, and what I enjoy most. I'll just need to focus on being a mother right now.

BenRaines · #42 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 08:45 AM

Just remember this. If you are intimate with him you are also exposing yourself to every person that he has been with and every person that they have been with and on and on.

If this happened to me I would insist on a one year no touch period and after that to be tested for no STD and then we can talk. 4 X how many other people and more and more.

Ben Raines

Bini · #43 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 05:32 PM

From my standpoint, you're absolutely doing the right thing, for yourself and your child :]

Stay focused and don't give into him. I was able to kick my ex out and stay in the house. But if you're not in that kind of situation maybe you can stay with family or a trusted friend? If for whatever reason you're stuck living with him for awhile - don't be intimate! You're done with him. You're moving on now.

RachelleDrew · #44 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 05:41 PM

Yeah....he doesn't get to touch me anymore. I've made myself very clear. Hasn't stopped him from attempting it though. Ah well.

FairChild · #45 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 07:37 PM

you really should be so proud of yourself. you are holding up well in a difficult situation. way to go girl!

dazed-and-confused · #46 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 08:17 PM

good for you......seems you tried your best to resolve issues and your ex...heh heh....ex, hasnt done a thing.
definately time to cut him loose and get on with your life.

by the way, sorry this happened to you.

dazed-and-confused · #47 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 08:19 PM

seems to me that your ex is displaying classical sexual addition......has there been any talk about this in the past?
surely it isnt a new term to you both.
was therapy ever an alternative?

ploomf · #48 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 10:34 PM

I'm sorry you're going through this. You deserve to find someone who won't jerk you around like this.