What Do I Do Now? - Page 3

Cameron1991 · #21 (**permalink**) 10-23-2009, 09:53 PM

Also Straterra one of the side effect is that it kills sex drive.

Cameron1991 · #22 (**permalink**) 10-23-2009, 09:57 PM

I hope im not outline trying to incourage him to take Anti depressent because i know its a very delicate and serious matter. If anyone thinks i am please let me know.

Kawazu · #23 (**permalink**) 10-23-2009, 10:14 PM

Hello sir,

LostSheep, I would be cautious about the medication idea. Please consult with a physician carefully before requesting any prescription.

Ensure that your intention is to fix the malady which the medicine is meant to treat, (depression, ADHD). I know that you may be feeling desperate but it is unwise to pursue treatment solely seeking a secondary benefit in your pornography struggle.

Whatever you decide, follow the path that is healthiest for you. I wish you well, LostSheep.

Regards,
Kawazu

Cameron1991 · #24 (**permalink**) 10-23-2009, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Kawazu

Hello sir,

LostSheep, I would be cautious about the medication idea. Please consult with a physician carefully before requesting any prescription.

Ensure that your intention is to fix the malady which the medicine is meant to treat, (depression, ADHD). I know that you may be feeling desperate but it is unwise to pursue treatment solely seeking a secondary benefit in your pornography struggle.

Whatever you decide, follow the path that is healthiest for you. I wish you well, LostSheep.

Regards,
Kawazu

Kawazu right discuss with a Physician to make sure its the right thing for you all people are different, just because it is helping me doesnt it will help you, could also make it worse. So if you do deciede PLEASE procede with caution.

LostSheep · #25 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 02:53 AM

I'm not sure how this thread turned into a me needing anti-deppressents...

FairChild · #26 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 06:28 AM

If you are ADD/H, you need to be working on helping yourself with that problemas well. If meds help, use them. If you were diabetic, you would use insulin, if you needed glasses to see, you would wear them, if you needed a hearing aid to hear, you would use that. I hope you find whatever tools you need to make your life better. My son is Aspergers with ADH/D and when he was in school, the meds helped him, now he is not in school, he is off of them. I wish you well. FC

Connie · #27 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 09:33 AM

LDS.org - Ensign Article - Truths and Lies

This article in the current issue of the Ensign may be helpful.

Charlyc · #28 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Vort

.....what I found insightful was that he said pornography addiction has little or nothing to do with sex per se and everything to do with endorphins. It's the endorphin release in your brain that you crave, not the shameful pictures of women prostituting themselves.

Sorry if this isn't a lot of help. I see a huge need for help in this area, and my heart goes out to you and other men struggling with this,

What else provides an endorphin release? Maybe a picture of the Savior, or a short family video? Could you possibly discipline yourself to look at one of these every time you get the "itch"? If you did that for several weeks, I wonder if your craving for porn would diminish.

Women also seek that 'endorphin release'. You'd be surprised at how many view porn or simply get off with pics of brad pitt......anyway I doubt a picture if the savior could help here.

But don't bother with the bishop yet. He will only take your recommend away, tell you to fast and pray, and tell his counselors to not call you to anything. You need a shrink to do a 12 step program or other treatment, to learn how to control those cravings and the curiosity, or the release. The sooner the better; its very difficult to live with guilt thats associated to an addiction.

spirettedotter · #29 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 05:14 PM

My response is in agreement with the comment that the addiction is not really about sex. I don't know about the endorphins theory though.

I believe all addictions are really about seeking a "fix" for pain that isn't being dealing with. Getting rid of your computer won't stop you from going to the library or an X-rated business, etc.

The only way a 12-step program will help you, is if you work the steps! When you have truly hit your bottom and are ready to change, the Atonement of your Savior is what can heal you. You have to be ready and willing to go to any length to dig into your past (take your inventory) hand your burdens over to the Lord, and practice trusting in Him every minute to relieve you from the need for a fix. That will take the willingness to put a support system in place and USE it, make a list of alternative actions that help and DO them, reach out to others at any time of risk, and white-knucke it when things get rough. There is no easy way to get through any addiction. But making a decision and sitcking to it, along with using the tools you learn, and the strength available through the Lord, can get you through the difficult times until the easier times become your new habit.

You can be free, but it won't happen automatically for you. It takes work and the grace of God both. Some can do it, and others can't. Which are you?

Charlyc · #30 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by spirettedotter

My response is in agreement with the comment that the addiction is not really about sex. ..
The only way a 12-step program will help you, is if you work the steps! When you have truly hit your bottom and are ready to change, the Atonement of your Savior is what can heal you. .....

Yes; point is, I believe, that first one needs to do the program to stop or get help from professionals ie psychologist, to stop and then AFTER one has stopped or almost totally stopped, that's when the Atonement can heal. And really for 'porn watching' we don't need to go and confess to a Bishop...his time is better used up with more serious cases like adultery which do need a confession to a bishop.