Gay couple as roommates

yotoman · #1 (**permalink**) 12-05-2009, 10:20 PM

I'm somewhat confused on what to do right now. I am currently living in an apartment with 3 bedrooms. My roommate (The one moving out) that has the bedroom with a private bath is the room a 2 gay guys want to rent. (Each pays $170 a month per room...we sign a contract to pay that much each...even if someone moves out I still pay $170...however, the rental unit wants people in these rooms, so I am finding them.

Across from my room is an empty room I am going to be renting out to a foreign exchange student. So we will share the big bathroom.

The gay couple will be in the room in the front of the apartment. Separate bathroom, but we all share the laundry room which is in the closest of their room.

The guy I met is really nice and he agree to not show affection and such...but I'm not sure if the rental place will accept 2 people in one little room...not sure.

I feel like I need to follow the Church non-discrimination stand on this one. They recently supported that in Utah, but I want to be careful.

I will fast tomorrow and ask the rental people on Monday or Tuesday.

pam · #2 (**permalink**) 12-05-2009, 10:24 PM

I think the first order of business is to find out what the rules would be of 2 people sharing the room.

If they are okay with it, personally, if they are respectful of house rules as well as everyone else..I don't see a problem.

yotoman · #3 (**permalink**) 12-05-2009, 10:28 PM

Definitely. The guy I met is actually from Arizona and he said he had a lot of Mormon friends so I think this will work out fine, but I've never been placed in a situation like this before. I am the one making decisions...not my parents or mission president so it's really new to me.

Thanks Pam for responding so quick...it's bothering me just a little.

pam · #4 (**permalink**) 12-05-2009, 10:30 PM

There has to be lots of communication. These two also have to realize that while you don't necessarily approve of their lifestyle, you can cohabitate as roommates in the same rental unit. There just needs to be lots of talking about what everyone is comfortable with. Respectful of everyone will be key.

Moksha · #5 (**permalink**) 12-05-2009, 11:30 PM

I once had some gay guys living across the hall. They were great neighbors in that they would bring goodies over whenever they baked and they were quite. Can you ask for better neighbors than that?

Dravin · #6 (**permalink**) 12-05-2009, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Moksha

I once had some gay guys living across the hall. They were great neighbors in that they would bring goodies over whenever they baked and they were quite. Can you ask for better neighbors than that?

A pair of beautiful straight Mormon gals of sound values living across the hall who bring over goodies and with at least one of them interested in me?

I mean, I can ask right?

Moksha · #7 (**permalink**) 12-05-2009, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Dravin

A pair of beautiful straight Mormon gals of sound values living across the hall who bring over goodies and with at least one of them interested in me?

I mean, I can ask right?

I'de like to buy into that pipe dream as well. Let's make me young again and have the two Mormon gals bear a striking resemblance to Heather Locklear and Denise Richards. Oh, and have them whisper anything in French while I eat the yummy baklava they brought over. Are you in on this upgrade too?

pam · #8 (**permalink**) 12-06-2009, 12:02 AM

Some reason I don't see this as answering the OP's question.

Moksha · #9 (**permalink**) 12-06-2009, 01:26 AM

Advice? Go talk to your Bishop ahead of time. No need to buy into down the pike trouble.

Iggy · #10 (**permalink**) 12-06-2009, 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by yotoman

I'm somewhat confused on what to do right now. I am currently living in an apartment with 3 bedrooms. My roommate (The one moving out) that has the bedroom with a private bath is the room a 2 gay guys want to rent. (Each pays $170 a month per room...we sign a contract to pay that much each...even if someone moves out I still pay $170...however, the rental unit wants people in these rooms, so I am finding them.

Across from my room is an empty room I am going to be renting out to a foreign exchange student. So we will share the big bathroom.

The gay couple will be in the room in the front of the apartment. Separate bathroom, but we all share the laundry room which is in the closest of their room.

The guy I met is really nice and he agree to not show affection and such...but I'm not sure if the rental place will accept 2 people in one little room...not sure.

I feel like I need to follow the Church non-discrimination stand on this one. They recently supported that in Utah, but I want to be careful.

I will fast tomorrow and ask the rental people on Monday or Tuesday.

What if it was a man/woman couple (not married) instead of the gay couple? Would you have the same question? As long as they are not going to be groping/fondling/etc in the common areas of the apartment, there should be no problems.

The apartment managers should have NO say as to who can move in, other than can they financially afford it, and are they good renters (references from previous landlords re: are they messy, do damage, have loud parties, listen to LOUD music, etc. NOT what gender, race, religion, sexual preferences, etc. they are/prefer)

As a female, who in her youth had more than her share of room mates, I would have preferred gay couple room mates. Male homosexuals, by and large, are much neater and quieter than their female counterparts.