Affairs Of The Heart

[sleepless]

My husband recently ended an affair with a girl who is Mormon. However, she will not stop calling. She exhibits bizarre behavior such as, but not limited to: sending him nude pictures of herself, using our last name, threatening to kill herself and the latest is some strange request that my husband tell her next boyfriend/husband how to please her. She has left messages at my home, told my husband I was going to make her child "disappear" <which I never did. > I only spoke with her once and my husband was there when ithe incident occurred. I recently had a child and she told my husband she knew someone who could help him get custody of my chld because she comes from a prominent family. She keeps telling him my child should be hers. I am genuinely concerned for my family. This behavior is bizarre for ANYONE. However, is there something I can do ie. contact the temple and someone in authority or should I call the police? Please, give me some suggestions.

Thanks

[pushka]

I suggest you call the police..she sounds dangerous!

[aurora]

I agree with Pushka. As a member of the Lds church. I can safely say that she has stepped over the boundaries. You're right when you say it sounds like unusual behaviour for anyone. She sounds as though she may have mental health problems.


If your Husband has made it clear to her that the affair is over and you are genuinely concerned for your welfare phone the Police and get some legal advice (perhaps a restraining order)


There would be no point in contacting the Temple as they don't deal with this type of thing.


The important thing is look after yourself and your family. Keep safe, keep strong. Hope you manage to sort things out.

[Josie]

Either this whole forum is a sham or you are nuts. Anyone that would come into a website and tell a story like that and then ask for advice as to what to do has a problem. The first thing I would have done and anyone in their right mind would have been to call the police. If you are sitting around doing nothing when this supposed person is threatening your child, you, and everything else, seems like you have the problem. If she is LDS, it is in name only and being LDS has nothing to do with what you claim is going on.

You apparently you know little about our faith. The LDS believes you do not have relations with someone outside of your marriage and you don't have relations with someone when you are not married to them. And we certainly do not believe in breaking families up and threatening people. Her being LDS is not the issue here, her actions are, if this is going on at all, and your husband's and your actions if you are letting it go on without doing anything about it. Of course the man would not have been my husband some time ago if he were doing something like that. You don't sound like a responsible adult nor does this story sound true. If it is true, then all of you have more problems than you can get help with here. Call the police and then get some counseling.

[sleepless]

I can assure you this is the truth. I didn't come here to start any type of problem. I only came asking for advice. I am not aware from what part of Utah you hail but, I will tell you she is from your state and possibly a neighborhood/family with which you are familiar. I pray no one is ever in the position in which I find myself. As for my posting on this forum, I did so because I am a lady needing advice. God ordained a home and family and I am simply attempting to keep mine together. I pray you never have need for advice. May God Bless you and yours.

[Josie]

Originally posted by sleepless@Nov 27 2005, 11:52 AM
I can assure you this is the truth. I didn't come here to start any type of problem. I only came asking for advice. I am not aware from what part of Utah you hail but, I will tell you she is from your state and possibly a neighborhood/family with which you are familiar. I pray no one is ever in the position in which I find myself. As for my posting on this forum, I did so because I am a lady needing advice. God ordained a home and family and I am simply attempting to keep mine together. "Nuts"? No, definitely not. I pray you never have need for advice. May God Bless you and yours.

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I have had need for much advice in my life. I did not mean to offend you, and if you are being honest with us, then my advice stands, call the police on her and get counseling for your family. I do not understand why you have not already done these things. And her religion has nothing to do with what she is doing, I say once again. I apoligize for saying you were nuts, what I meant was that your actions were nuts, not to have sought help through the legal authorities to deal with this woman. You don't let a person go on and on when she is threatening your family and home and sending basically pornography that you do not want. If you are on the up and up get help for your family and get it now!!!!!!!!!!

[Jason]

Easy there Josie,

Perhaps this poster thought there might be an alternative "religious" way to coerce this woman into staying away without involving the police/courts/etc. Like contacting her Bishop, or a GA, or someone who could talk to her.

[Setheus]

Here is what I would do.....

I'd call her on the phone...I would say, "you win, come and meet me at *pick a place secluded and away from prying ears*. I want you to come and I will give you everything you want...."

Then, when she shows up I'd put my two dobes on her and not call them off until either they get tired or.....she gets away. That last one wouldnt happen. And by the time the dogs get tired there wouldnt be anything except some bones and a few torn clothes. Maybe a shoe.

[CharlieDesRosiers]

Oh, Seth.
Your diplomacy, tact, and sensitivity know no bounds.

[Laureltree]

Contact your bishop and the authorities......You and your childs safety come first.............Hugs......