Crazy Sisters...help

[lisajo]

I'm having real issues with my family members back in Utah,
I got totally dissed by my sisters at thanksgiving, they ignored me even when i tried to talk to them, I left with hurt feelings and never wanting to go back, if it weren't for my son in collage and my parents i wouldn't,..........Many things have happened in the last few years and my sisters have turned into well........all they think about is them selfs.
I have tried hard to get everyone on the same level but it's not working, since my brothers have died so has my family, my mom is in a home and my dad and my family are the only ones that went to see her on thanksgiving day, my sisters wont go see her and they live within 5 min. of the home, And at one point i ask my sisters for help with another sister who is drinking to much..i told them we needed to help her and all they said to me was........at least theres another grave in the family plot, ( we had a brother die of an accidental over dose a few years ago)
I don't know how it has gotten this bad, i am so far away from them that i never know what is going on till i visit.
Does any one have any ideas on how i can get them to see what they are doing to the family, or a way i could talk to them? I have tried so hard.......they are mad at me for something and i don't know what, I just want them to talk to me.
Thanks LisaJo

[pushka]

I know you mentioned before about speaking with one of your sisters about your other sister's drink problem, and helping her, and that when you spoke to the other one, she said exactly the same thing about the extra grave...I do think that's terrible, and don't know how I would deal with it myself.

Perhaps you could write them both individual letters, asking if they have a problem with you and why? Asking them if they have a particular reason why they don't visit their mother? without sounding too judgemental or anything...

I'm sorry I can't give you any better advice than that, but good luck...

[StrawberryFields]

Lisajo I am sorry this is happening to your family and I can see this is hurting you. You will be in my prayers.

Hugs, SF

[stellati]

Maybe you could start small, you know, something small to help everyone get to know each other a little better. Maybe some thing like a family newsletter, or a website to post pictures or a forum that's newsy, something that they can post to, they may want to brag about their "extra special" children. Something that they can easily reach but don't have to do a lot to be involved, you know, they're selfish. I think if everyone got to know each other a little better it might be a small step in the healing process. It's worth a try.