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angelbaby · #1 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 09:12 AM

I'm new to this. It took me ages to get my account set up and almost gave up. I'm looking for some advice or help or anything. I've been reading alot of messages that sound just like my life. So i guess i should be glad knowing i'm not alone in my trials. i'm from australia. I have been a member 10 years come january. I'm 27, but feel 107. I suffer depression, and my marriage is struggling. my husband believes that medication for depression is a cop out, so i'm working through things on my own. I'm trying to be the daughter of god that i know i can be. I've grown more over the last 3 years - since marrying & having my 2 little ones - than i ever did in my earlier years of membership. I'm painfully shy and have trouble opening up at church and making friends. so there isn't anyone i can talk to about these things, as the few friends i have have moved out of town, and my husband and i only seem to talk to argue. basically i've hit a wall and don't know what to do.

Prend1 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 09:50 AM

I don't know if you read my post but you sound just like me. I don't have any advise for you as I am in the same situation but you will be in my prayers.

It is hard to feel the Spirit believe me i know. Right now I just wish that Christmas would be over with so that I can quit smiling and acting happy when all that I want to do is stay in bed. I don't know if this will work for your husband (it didn't work on mine) but there was an Ensign/Liahona article a few months back about mental illness...which is what depression is. I read it to my husband but it didn't do any good. He thinks that to get better I just have to want to.....well, if that were true I would have been better a LONG time ago. I didn't ask for this.

I have learned through all of this though that the Lord has a reason that I am not healed yet so I am just trying to figure out what that reason is. LOL

I hope that we both can find that peace some day. Prayers to you!

Karen

Prend1 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 09:52 AM

I find that article plus a few more that I hadn't read yet. Here is the link. I'm gonna check it out too!

http://library.lds.org/nxt/gateway.dll?f=t...r%3Bfield%3ARef

StrawberryFields · #4 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 09:59 AM

WELCOME to LDS Talk

You are not alone when you are here.

You should ask your hubby what would be so wrong with you going on some neds if just for a short time, they really do help get many people over the hump of depression. Maybe he will have to wait until things get bad enough he will be ready to try anything. Wait a minute... this is your body not his. Tell him that he isn't the one who needs to take them (yet)

and that you choose to give them a try. I hate it that we sometimes allow our husbands to think for us.

glindakc · #5 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 10:09 AM

hey welcome to the site. ya we're all here and want to help you. definitely look at karen (Prend1)'s topic - there's a lot of things there that will help you, i hope.

first of all, know that the Lord loves you, and that all the people here love you and want to help you as well.

talk to your bishop or relief society president. they can give you some connections. and work with your visiting teacher. they are there to specifically help you in your trials. it's their job and i'm sure that they would be open and willing to help you. just tell them how you feel. ask the Lord for help. going to others for help when you are so shy is hard, i know, but the Lord can help you, and it will be for your good. good luck!!!

lisajo · #6 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 11:55 AM

Meds are good if you get the right one, but taking them to long, or quiting them suddenly can be dangerous, Stick with us you will make friends and it will bring you're spirit up, Don't let mean comments get to you there are some here that can dish it out, One piece of advice though.....don't talk to much about your personal life marriage ETC. you might regret it later,
Welcome Angel it's great to have you!

pushka · #7 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 12:39 PM

Angel, I send you my best wishes that you get some help to recover from your depression, and that once your husband sees the improvement in your self esteem, feelings for him etc. he will see the value of you taking the meds for a short time.

I have been on medication for depression/bi-polar disorder for many years...I find that I need more or less anti depressants at particular times of year, or at particularly stressful times...do not be surprised if this is the case with you too, and do not be afraid to approach your doctor for advise about altering your medication according to your needs at those times.

Justlooking · #8 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 05:06 PM

Welcome to the site!!! I suggest you come and hang out with us in chat when you have some free time. We have alot of fun there, and everyone is very nice.

Setheus · #9 (**permalink**) 12-26-2005, 11:59 AM

Except for me. In chat I spend a great deal of time simply smashing buildings, breathing fire, and kidnapping beautiful women.

However, I would like to see you around. I've been all over Australia and always like the chance to talk to an Aussie.....even if it is a Shelia. LOL j/k.

See you around.

#10 (**permalink**) 12-26-2005, 06:25 PM

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Originally posted by angelbaby@Dec 22 2005, 09:12 AM
I'm new to this. It took me ages to get my account set up and almost gave up. I'm looking for some advice or help or anything. I've been reading alot of messages that sound just like my life. So i guess i should be glad knowing i'm not alone in my trials. i'm from australia.* I have been a member 10 years come january. I'm 27, but feel 107. I suffer depression, and my marriage is struggling. my husband believes that medication for depression is a cop out, so i'm working through things on my own.* I'm trying to be the daughter of god that i know i can be. I've grown more over the last 3 years - since marrying & having my 2 little ones - than i ever did in my earlier years of membership. I'm painfully shy and have trouble opening up at church and making friends. so there isn't anyone i can talk to about these things, as the few friends i have have moved out of town, and my husband and i only seem to talk to argue. basically i've hit a wall and don't know what to do.

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Excuse me? But is it you or your husband suffering from depression? What the heck does he have to do withyou taking meds for something wrong with you? I don't understand that? Does he ask you permission to do things? Do you tell him what he can do and not do? Work through it yourself? Depression is a physiological disorder. A bio-chemical imbalance and your husband needs a shrink if he thinks you can just work throught it. Welcome to the site. WE will be NICE to you.