Should I Like Him Or Not?

[Barma]

I have a really big crush on this guy in my ward. People where I work have given me the following advice

" Dating/crushing on people in your ward in like peeing in a swimming pool, at first it is all good; then you have to swim in it."

So should I even consider liking him, or should just move on? What should I do?

[mom_of_jcchlsm]

wow - you must be in a really LDS-dense area because around here, if you don't date a guy in the ward, you have to date either non-members or someone who lives 45 minutes away. Count your blessings that you even have such a choice!

As long as you keep it friendly, there shouldn't be a problem. Yes, even if things don't work out, you're still going to see him every Sunday and Wednesday (or whatever night you have YW/YM). But it's like dating someone from your school - neither of you is going to move away just because the relationship doesn't work out. Happens all the time to people. It's a good life skill to smile while watching a friend go out with a guy you used to like.

And if you really like him (for the right kinds of reasons), why waste the opportunity to get to know him better? You could be throwing away eternity.

Stick to the guidelines in For the Strength of Youth - group date until you're ready to consider marriage (which means that any guy worth dating will need to group date until after his mission!). Group dating is so much better and safer! You won't find yourself in tempting, compromising situations, and you always have other people to talk with if you and your date don't seem to hit it off.

[Barma]

wow - you must be in a really LDS-dense area because around here, if you don't date a guy in the ward, you have to date either non-members or someone who lives 45 minutes away. Count your blessings that you even have such a choice!

As long as you keep it friendly, there shouldn't be a problem. Yes, even if things don't work out, you're still going to see him every Sunday and Wednesday (or whatever night you have YW/YM). But it's like dating someone from your school - neither of you is going to move away just because the relationship doesn't work out. Happens all the time to people. It's a good life skill to smile while watching a friend go out with a guy you used to like.

And if you really like him (for the right kinds of reasons), why waste the opportunity to get to know him better? You could be throwing away eternity.

Stick to the guidelines in For the Strength of Youth - group date until you're ready to consider marriage (which means that any guy worth dating will need to group date until after his mission!). Group dating is so much better and safer! You won't find yourself in tempting, compromising situations, and you always have other people to talk with if you and your date don't seem to hit it off.
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He is in my single's ward.

[mom_of_jcchlsm]

well good grief - if you're in a singles ward, what are you waiting for? I'm sorry I assumed you were younger. You should both be old enough / mature enough to handle it if things don't work out, and like I said before - why waste an opportunity?

[StrawberryFields]

Knowing that he is in your singles ward I say become a good friend with him and see where it goes from there.

[shanstress70]

I have a really big crush on this guy in my ward. People where I work have given me the following advice

" Dating/crushing on people in your ward in like peeing in a swimming pool, at first it is all good; then you have to swim in it."

So should I even consider liking him, or should just move on? What should I do?
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Isn't that the point of a singles' ward? To meet other LDS to date/marry?

[princess_army_wife]

My hubby and I used to be in the same ward. And we are as happy as happy gets!

[Acez]

man ur lucky....the people in my ward i don't even like.....
or even in my stake.....