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[angelbaby]

i just typed out this whole thing and it didn't work. so i'm going to type it again, but a shorter version cos i've had one of those days.
I tried being more patient, cooking different meals, keeping the place spotless, blah blah blah. He didn't acknowledge anything. Wasn't greatful for anything. Complained about stupid things, because he couldn't find real things to complain about (ie: he complained that the bananas were going off, and i better eat them so they don't get wasted, because he doesn't want to eat rotten bananas ... they weren't even a little bruised, he just grabbed at straws finding things to complain about). So then he asks me to help him with his chores. This is manspeak for "do my chores for me, but i'll call it family time". I ended up mowing the lawn. He basically wants me to be a bend-over-backwards-do-every-thing-wife so he doesn't have to do anything but go to work, and look after his callings. Yay. So, i figure if i just ###### it up, keep praying, being faithful, having humility etc i'll get through it. He'll probably never change, so i need to get over it and ignore his garbage and make the best life for myself and my kids that i can.

had to get that off my chest, feel a bit better for it.
hope you're all having a better day than me.

[lisajo]

Sounds like you need a good marriage counsler! marrige should be 50/50 good luck girl

[shanstress70]

I don't think your husband is deserving of you. I'm all about keeping a marriage together, but not when one doesn't even put forth the effort. I'm with Lisajo... you need a good marriage counselor. Is your husband willing to do such a thing? If not, IMO you need someone you can be friends with, as well as a spouse.

I'm sorry the situation is as it is.

[angelbaby]

Please don't get me wrong. I do love my husband, and marriage is a sacred and wonderful thing. I hope i don't frighten the hell out of anyone having a few struggles in marriage, or anyone thinking about getting married. I feel the same momentary loss of hope when i read about all the struggles so many others have. I know marriage is alot of work. I just feel alot of the time that i'm the only making the effort, while he basically pushes my patience and waits for me to finally just figure i should ###### it up and do everything myself. Marriage is about sharing burdens and loads and work. I think alot of the time spouses end up doing alot of the work themselves because it's easier than having to ask for support, when really you shouldn't have to ask for some things.

does that make sense. I feel like the worlds most disfunctional person at times.