Telling My Parents I Want To Get Married.

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Yeah, it most definently IS THEIR choice
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Once a believer does not necessarily mean always a believer!
I think what Stellati means is that Mormangal's parents are still LDS, even though they are not active, they are still LDS. Unless they have requested to be excommunicated or have their names removed from the Church's rolls. Thus they do know that active LDS strive to get married and sealed in the Temple. It is by their own personal choice that they choose not to live up to their baptismal covenents. BTW, their choice is a God given right too. Jesus Christ died on the cross for us to have that Agency, that right to make our own choices. With that right, with that choice that we make, we must accept the consequenses of that action. Good, bad or indifferent. For these parents, the consequense of them not being active in the LDS church, means they cannot enter the Temple and witness their daughter being married and sealed to the man of her choice.

they are so back hills, they just can't hear anything. [/b]

Careful what you say. They could be saying the very same thing about you! [/b][/quote]
Perhaps it would be better to say that they are so set in their ways, there is no getting through to them.

[shanstress70]

Perhaps it would be better to say that they are so set in their ways, there is no getting through to them.
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Or that we all have our beliefs and are entitled to them.

[MrsKunz]

I sincerely ask everyone who reads this, if you have an advice to please share it with me. Here is the story.

I am an active member of the church and have been since I was 12 years old. My parents have been inactive since I was a child, and have not exactly supported my choice to go to church. Growing up I would often have conversations with my step-mom about the Temple. I would tell her how much I wanted to get married there someday, this was a source of contention. She would sharply reply that if I made that choice I was being selfish, because my father would not be able to be there with me. I have always felt that it was his choice, not mine, if he attended or not. I never talked to my father about it. Now I am 20 years old and will be engaged soon and plan to get married in the Temple. I live across country so this conversation will not be face to face but I need to know how can I tell my Father that I plan to get married in the Temple without hurting him or upsetting him? A Temple marriage is very important to me and I want him to know that.

~Allie
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Mormon_Gal,
My family isn't lds and are very Against me being baptized this weekend but they tell me its my choice, If your parent truly love you like 99.9% of parents do they will be happy for you and support you no matter what , as long as you include them in the ceremony like have them outside the temple i think you will be fine. your parents love you and will support you in what ever you have decided. as for you upsetting your dad .. tell him how inportant this is to you and that it doesn't change your relationship with him just tell him that you love him and want him to be happy for you . My dad won't be at my temple wedding in one and half years he is not lds but he understands how much i love MrKunz and my son Andrew and what to be with them forever . just know your doing this for you not to please your parents .. and eventually they will come around. Allie its ok to be selfish on this topic, you and ur fiance want to be together forever and that is a wonderful thing in this case do it for ur life with him I am sure your family will be happy for you.