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MBASS · #1 (**permalink**) 05-15-2006, 01:35 PM

How should I deal with going to the temple without my husband?! He seems ok with it, but doesnt really like to talk about it?! I know we are bound to have problems due to the adversaries wishes for us to be miserable. Any examples or advice on how to deal?

#2 (**permalink**) 05-15-2006, 11:48 PM

Have you both counseled with your Bishop and/or Stake President?

I was separated from my ex-husband when I received my endowments. So I really can't advise you very much, other than to not be "holier than thou" about it.

After your Endowment, as you are traveling back home, ponder on your feelings. How you feel, what you have learned. Then try to remember these feelings every day. Keep them in your heart and mind. When these feelings start to dim, get yourself back to the Temple. Keep a Journal ~ not just for when you visit the Temple, but for every day. This also keeps those special spiritual moments in your mind and heart longer. You don't have to go into great detail describing these feelings, you can sum them up with just a few words.

When your husband sees you are changing for the spiritual good ~ that you are walking with the Holy Ghost as you constant companion, he will want to have that too. Don't preach, don't push. When he asks you questions, answer him as honestly as you can.

Remember your covenants ~ to keep sacred things sacred. IF you feel it is necessary, schedule another meeting with your Bishop/ and or Stake President before your endowment, so that this can all be explained to you and your husband. If your husband won't go to them, they WILL come to your home.

Good Luck, and God Bless.

stellati · #3 (**permalink**) 05-20-2006, 03:15 AM

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How should I deal with going to the temple without my husband?! He seems ok with it, but doesnt really like to talk about it?! I know we are bound to have problems due to the adversaries wishes for us to be miserable. Any examples or advice on how to deal?
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ooOOoo, that's a toughie...Since I'm not married I can give no real advice. Though my mom's active and my dad is not (hasn't been ever since I can remember) I can tell you from watching them and talking to my mom about it that the only thing she can do is to pray for him. Also, expect opposition. Have your mind made up before hand how you'll handle it. just don't shove it in his face, be kind about it. Don't force him into anything he doesn't want to do... Anyhow, good luck! *hugs*

Lindy · #4 (**permalink**) 05-26-2006, 07:50 AM

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How should I deal with going to the temple without my husband?! He seems ok with it, but doesnt really like to talk about it?! I know we are bound to have problems due to the adversaries wishes for us to be miserable. Any examples or advice on how to deal?[/b]

My advice.... just keep loving him, if he doesn't want to talk about it... than don't. But be ready to answer him when he does feel the need to talk. You already know there are going to be issues .... your wise to realize that. Pray for a softened heart towards your decision, pray for strength to handle whatever comes up... and let your love for your God shine thru.... and keep a positive attitude that everything is going to work out ok. He might surprize you with the realization that he knows how important this is to you... and you are important to him.

Laureltree · #5 (**permalink**) 05-31-2006, 10:38 AM

I'm aweful on this topic, but to me...It's all about you...I work on my own spirituality, its my job to get me to heaven and my mates to get him to heaven. My job as a wife is to be loving , wonderful, understanding, kind, and humble and to be the example that might lead my husband back to church/ the temple....
Another words GO go go go. Then come home and share your spiritual experiences with him, tell him how grateful you are to be married to him and how going to the temple allows you to reaffirm that committment youve made together....

Hugs LaurelTree

MBASS · #6 (**permalink**) 06-02-2006, 03:00 PM

Thanks for the advice! At first he was acting kinda scketchy about it. But I went again last night and he was happy. He can tell there is a change! I am trying to live up to all of the blessings I was given and I think that benefits him greatly. He is frustrated that I cant explain things to him, but I think Im going to get the Bishop to talk to him about the temple.