Help!i'm Feeling Lonley Need Advice

mojojo1984 · #1 (**permalink**) 06-06-2006, 02:43 AM

hey everyone,
it's Joe again.well i'm a little down.and was hopping someone can give me some advice.see i can't seen to find anyone in west virginia. i check alot of dating web sites.i know you said love happens when you don't look.but sometimes it gets lonely.i'm hopping maybe next year my family will move to either utah or arizona.after my little sister finish high school in 2007.i'm so used to west cost area. i had live in 3 different calfornia.but now it cost more to live in california.there more mormons in the west cost.i just worried about teaching people about the chruch.and i sometimes worried what if i finally find someone and we move.my dad jokes about me marrying asian girl since i love everything about asia.and plus my two older brothers got married to different races. my older brother James married a black woman and he always wanted to be black.and my other older brother chad married a hispanic woman.my dad jokes about moving to utah to my mom because none of my mom's family is mormon.and my dad doesn't mind moving to arizona because i have a older sister in arizona but now my older sister in arizona.is hopping to move to the east cost area to be close to us.she has a 10 years old step daugher name crystal who is going to finish high school next year.the same year as my little sister. crystal's mom wants her to go to college and is going to move closer to her.since her mother is anti-mormon. my older sister and her husband is thinking of moving.and she love to move to the east cost area. both my older brothers live in the east cost area too.and plus her husband's family is in the east cost and most of my older sister's mother's family.anyway now i lost hope moving to the west cost.my parents wanted to live in west virginia for a long time.but i'm kind of sick of it.i keep worrying about my future. i don't know why but i feel like since my older brothers married different races.i should too.and i keep thinking about what my dad saying about that.he told one of his co-workers about his sons marrying different races and he thinks i'll marry asian woman.i don't mind that.but west virginia is mostly just blacks and white people.it's just pushing myself hard.i try dating sites and stuff.i know i should let love find me.but i wanted to continued what my brothers done. i know it's up to me who i choose.but i feel like i wanted to more then i have to.i'm not sure i think all the east cost states have mostly blacks and white people. i keep thinking i should pray to go like Joseph smith did.
well thank you all for your time.
-Joe

miztrniceguy · #2 (**permalink**) 06-06-2006, 05:22 AM

i don't know how old you are, but you sound young. i wouldn't advise considering another race spouse just because your brothers did. they had there own reasons. i would say to consider any worthy woman that interests you. as to where to look or move, i moved from california to utah, hoping to increase my odds, and ended up meeting my wife on the internet and moving to missouri. ya just gotta have faith and trust in The Lord.

StrawberryFields · #3 (**permalink**) 06-06-2006, 09:08 AM

Hi Joe,

I have been following your story for quite sometime now. I think most of all you need to make yourself happy before you worry about finding a companion.Besides worrying about your furture what are you doing? Are you working or going to school? What do you want to do with your life?

#4 (**permalink**) 06-06-2006, 11:47 AM

I wouldnt worry too much about finding someone yet. Are you studying? Focus on getting your lie founded on the Lord and getting a career to pay for your life and wife and kids when it happens. You will be ok.

Now a word to the wise. Be careful about screaming that you are lonely, because some nasty grandmaw may come and try to get her clutches on you. I have seen it happen before and its not a pretty sight!

Fiannan · #5 (**permalink**) 06-10-2006, 02:55 AM

When you are unmarried (espeically as an LDS person) every day seems like an eternity. The scriptures are quite clear that agression and force are necessary to gain goals. The Kingdom of God is taken by force...the Parable of the Talents makes it clear that life is to be lived by taking it by the horns and going for it. Make yourself available and don't be timid. If you approach ten women who you find attractive and good of character, and nine reject you so what if the tenth wants you?

And if you want a white wife then just keep up the effort online. Mybe you'll luck out and meet a European woman online. Then again, stay active in your ward and maybe you'll meet someone there. Also, most people find jobs through personal contacts, maybe you can inlarge your circle of friends and maybe someone has a cousin to introduce you to -- or do missionary work and convert some southern girl.

shanstress70 · #6 (**permalink**) 06-13-2006, 06:43 AM

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or do missionary work and convert some southern girl.
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Why would you suggest he convert some southern girl? WV is not the South. And it isn't easy converting people in the South... the Bible belt!

Lindy · #7 (**permalink**) 06-14-2006, 12:54 AM

Hey Joe
I know life has been tough for you this last year or so.... even tougher when you think you found someone special and they slip away. You've had some really good advice from good people...in the past... and here in the present too.

You're young Joe, you are just getting used to dating here and there.... don't rush trying to find a mate for life... And I really think the idea to hit your knees and pray about things is a great idea!

Fiannan · #8 (**permalink**) 06-14-2006, 09:23 AM

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Why would you suggest he convert some southern girl? WV is not the South. And it isn't easy converting people in the South... the Bible belt![/b]

Actually the Census Bureau considers it wone of the southern states due to the fact that part of the state is below the Mason_Dixon line. Also, W. Virginians have a proud Confederate hertitage --

http://www.wvcivilwar.com/confunits.shtml

And I believe the typical southern girl is far superior to blue-state northern women at least in their more traditional values and family expectations. And the Church is making many converts in those regions.

shanstress70 · #9 (**permalink**) 06-14-2006, 12:28 PM

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Why would you suggest he convert some southern girl? WV is not the South. And it isn't easy converting people in the South... the Bible belt![/b]

Actually the Census Bureau considers it wone of the southern states due to the fact that part of the state is below the Mason_Dixon line. Also, W. Virginians have a proud Confederate hertitage --

http://www.wvcivilwar.com/confunits.shtml

And I believe the typical southern girl is far superior to blue-state northern women at least in their more traditional values and family expectations. And the Church is making many converts in those regions.
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Yes, I suppose you are right about WV being considered a southern state.

And thanks for calling me superior...

It did work on me too (I was converted several years ago), but it didn't 'stick'! But I still retain my traditional family values that I have always had.

Lindy · #10 (**permalink**) 06-14-2006, 06:58 PM

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And I believe the typical southern girl is far superior to blue-state northern women at least in their more traditional values and family expectations. And the Church is making many converts in those regions.
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I'm thinking I'm not taking to that "northern" women slur too well Fiannan.... I really am hoping that that wasn't too big of a northern woman put down