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08-03-2006, 04:35 PM
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Hello everybody,
I'm a catholic girl but I've been talking to the mormon missionaries for 3 months now. I feel something special about the Book of Mormon and I don't discard the possibility of converting to LDS Church. Well, it is more complicated than this because my whole family is catholic... I really think mormons are good role models for our society and I deeply admire the passion with wich they help other people and they follow the commandments. Even though I was born in the catholic church, I share lots of beliefs with mormons, I honestly believe in chastity, not damaging our body with certain substances, praying, fasting, eternal marriage... I'm very greateful for everything that Christ did for us. I want to keep following him for the rest of my life here on Earth so that I can be with him after I die. I love my family and I think I have good and strong principles. However, I have this big/huge problem.... I feel something special about one of the missionaries. Please, don't think I'm a disturbed girl. This is a pure feeling. I just love listening to him, learning from him and everytime I talk to him I can feel he is such a good and spiritual guy. Obviously, I'm not going to do anything about it because he is a missionary. But everytime I see him I can't stop smiling and giving thanks to God for letting me meet this Elder. My feeling is so deep that I wish I could date him after he's done his mission....and probably think about marriage. But after his mission, he's going back to his home town in the US (I'm in Canada). This breaks my heart.... he is so nice, and he's so loyal to Christ. I feel I can't let him go out of my heart..........Is there something I can do about it? Do you have any advice? Please, please... I really need your help. (I know lots of other mormon guys, but this guy is the only one that I'm deeply interested on) Thank you, Tina 
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08-03-2006, 04:49 PM
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This happens all the time. If it is meant to be it will happen.
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08-03-2006, 05:06 PM
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Hey Tina, welcome to the board. I've heard of situations like yours many times. Having been a missionary myself I know what you're talking about from the Elder's position...having admirers, that is. Anyway, here's my theory on it and you can take it for what it is.
There's nothing more attractive than the Spirit. Period. When someone exudes goodness, is in harmony with the Lord and we are too, we feel drawn powerfully to such people. It's good you respect his position as a missionary...Elders don't need temptation. It's quite common for someone investigating the LDS Church to bond firmly with the Elder/s who taught them. Hopefully you'll remain friends regardless of whether you are baptized or whether anything happens between you two after his mission.Here's my advice. Ask him for his home address so you can write to him after his mission. Then...after his mission...write a letter and let him know how you feel and see what he says. While he's a missionary is not the time to develop anything more than friendship and fellowship in the gospel. I'm glad you're finding truths and peace studying the Book of Mormon. I love it and the Bible immensely. Christ is alive, his Church is restored, families can be together forever through the sealing authority of the priesthood exercised within holy temples. I wish you well!
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08-03-2006, 05:21 PM
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Welcome Tina04, fellow Canadian!
I am absolutely positive that there are many situations where an LDS missionary has met the girl of his dreams during his mission. I know of one such person (at a different forum). Only a couple months after his mission was over, he packed his bags and went back to where he served and married his sweetie. And even though these situations do happen, it’s hard to know if it will happen to you. It would be difficult to get into a conversation with this missionary about how he “feels” about you. His task at the moment is being a missionary. My advice would be to keep in contact with him. Is he a senior missionary, or a newbie, or someone in between? Is his mission location changing soon or is he staying put for awhile. If he’s moving off, write to him and keep in touch. About 1 week before he goes back home, if possible, go out for lunch together (with his companion also, of course). Ask him what his plans are when he gets home, get an idea of where his head is and you might know if you’ve got a chance. After he leaves keep writing or emailing, keep in touch and get to know him long distance and if you feel comfortable, tell him how you feel. He may be your future mate but he may not be – only time (and some interaction) will tell. Good luck! PS – Can I ask you where you live, I’m in Edmonton. M.
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08-04-2006, 04:00 PM
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Hey Tina,
I have to agree with ApostleKnight. The best thing to do right now is to enjoy the friendship and wait until he's gone home to express your feelings. You may find, given some time, after he has left your area that your feelings fade. Time is always a good test to determine your true feelings. Continuing to maintain contact with those in previous areas while still serving is actually a violation of general mission rules. It may sound harsh, but it is meant to prevent problems and help new converts to turn to their ward for fellowship rather than the missionary. I hope it all works out for you.
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08-08-2006, 09:04 AM
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I had this happen to me, before he was transferred out of my area, I simply asked if I could please have his home address (not his mission address) so that I could write him when he returned home. He gave it to me. We talked some after he got home, it never worked for us (we were on different time schedules of life) but I know lots of people that it did work for. So maybe try that?!
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08-11-2006, 09:04 PM
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So yeah it happens
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08-12-2006, 12:03 AM
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So you know. I am having the same problem as you. I am having the same feelings about my missionary, except he was the missionary that confirmed me a member of the Church. Now, I was invited back to his home state and frequently email his mom and sister. You see, my problem is that he's four years older than I. I think we should both look at this positvely like the person who posted before me. It happens, and good things come of it. I'll leave it at that. But I know what you're going through. So you at least have that support. You are normal! I promise.
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08-12-2006, 03:31 PM
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4 years apart isnt bad.
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08-13-2006, 07:12 PM
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my parents are five years apart. i have tons of friends whos parents are five years apart. its not really a bad thing. just think of it like this. when he is 84.. you'll be 80. not that big of a deal in that perspective huh?
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