Originally Posted by JudoMinja
It sounds like you are having trouble finding people with whom you share a common interest when that interest isn't church. Since the only places you go to "socialize" are church and work, this isn't a surprise. Wherever you work, there are going to be all kinds of people with all kinds of backgrounds and the one thing bringing you together is your job. Some of them may not like the job, may only be there because it's the only work they can find, and the lot of you probably aren't really interested in talking about work when you're at work. It's possible to make friends with a co-worker, but it's hard and takes time because you are in a professional setting.
If you are going to make more non-member friends, you need to get out and do things that will get you socializing with non-members in a better setting than work. This also, however, is easier said than done. The most common social setting for most non-members is bars and clubs which we avoid. But there are other settings where you can meet people and make friends if you do the work to look for them and dig them up. People will form book clubs, outdoor clubs, film groups, etc. Think of the things you are interested in and see what you can do to get involved in things where other people will be doing the same thing. Like rock climbing? Get a membership for one of those indoor rock-walls. Play a musical instrument? Offer to give lessons or join a music interest group. Etc.
The only way you are going to make more friends is if you put yourself in situations where you can meet people with whom you would like to be friends.
The bold is very close to what I was trying to say. Thank you! I'm trying to find places to go to meet other people. I've started going to a group of young adult cancer survivors, but it's a small group and mostly girls. I'm hoping to get to know them a bit better to see if we mesh at all. The whole co-workers thing wouldn't work. I work in a special ed class with married people in their 50s and older.. I'm only 27.
Originally Posted by anatess
Okay, I'm confused...
Are you talking about friends or are you talking about boyfriends... They're 2 completely different things.
Your friend doesn't have to believe in God and follow the WoW so you can go screaming about the new pair of Michael Kors shoes displayed at the mall...
Just friends, not boyfriends. (I really don't date.
) The bold, I don't understand what you're trying to say....
Originally Posted by prisonchaplain
If you want to meet non-members, and maybe even build friendships, then, when a non-member says "Hi," say hi back. :-)
Sorry I wasn't clear. That is not my issue. I do have lots of friends from high school and what not who are not members. Plus the majority of my family are not members. I'm a super friendly person, so obviously I would say hi back. It's not like non members are aliens or something.
I'm sorry if it's still confusing. I haven't been able to formulate my quandary into actual words instead of just a feeling. I'll try to do so before I start a thread next time. Thanks for your input, folks!