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11-11-2007, 09:55 PM
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As the mother of an 18 year old who is a senior in high school....I can understand where her parents are coming from. Understand their point of view. Their daughter is just 17. So much living to do...college...etc etc etc. I also understand where you two are coming from. But I'm here to tell you from experience. 17 and 18 are just TOO young to make that kind of a commitment. Go off to college...you go on a mission if worthy. Enjoy your young life while you still can without all the commitments of marriage. Marriage isn't a game. It's a lot of work and alot of responsibility. If after all of that the love still remains..then discuss it. Her parents might have a better outlook on it at that point.
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hey im also 18 and a convert its pretty cool right. anyway back to the point. well i can kinda see why they are freakin out first off how long have you been a member of the church?? second you should look it at from there point of view you have been dating there daughter for 5 months shes still in high school and yeah maybe they think that you are moving too quickly. well i would really like to know how long you have been a member cause thats really what my point will ride on.
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11-11-2007, 10:08 PM
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If this love is meant to be, you will be able to wait out the parents' nervousness, better yourself through college and continued faithfulness, and at the right time, marry.
I courted my wife for nearly three years so that her parents would be at peace with and bless our union. Far better to slow down and do things right, in honor of parents, than to rush and sow bitterness in the family.
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i know that Marriage isnt a game at all. we have an amazing relationship. and OUR plans arent changing. i didnt want your advise on getting married thank you. just wanted to know if them freaking out is normal. and i will be goin to college with her once she graduates. we are going to build a foundation together.
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i know that Marriage isnt a game at all. we have an amazing relationship. and OUR plans arent changing. i didnt want your advise on getting married thank you. just wanted to know if them freaking out is normal. and i will be goin to college with her once she graduates. we are going to build a foundation together.
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Listen. You asked if her parents were freaking out and YOU mentioned this started after you two mentioned marriage. So don't ask for one's opinions if you aren't willing to take all that is given.
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You may not want the advice, but if you choose not to honor her parents, you are asking for heartache.
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grr we fallowed their rules. it did matter. they thot the rules would break us. but they made us stronger. so they want us to break up cause we are too seriuos
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PC is totally right - yes, their freaking out is understandable.
Show you are mature by seeing things from their point of view (even if you don't agree), and acting responsibly. Share your plans. Don't be defensive or draw lines in the sand; you are only inviting a battle if you do.
In my experience, some young men believe that being a man means taking charge, being decisive, and taking no guff from anyone. In reality, flexibly working together and being reasonable are the way to show what you're made of.
Good luck to you!
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PC is totally right - yes, their freaking out is understandable.
Show you are mature by seeing things from their point of view (even if you don't agree), and acting responsibly. Share your plans. Don't be defensive or draw lines in the sand; you are only inviting a battle if you do.
In my experience, some young men believe that being a man means taking charge, being decisive, and taking no guff from anyone. In reality, flexibly working together and being reasonable are the way to show what you're made of.
Good luck to you!
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thanK you 
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