Any hope for my failing marriage?

[Hemidakota]

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[azdave]

Sorry to hear about your marriage problems. I am going thru the same thing... I have been married for 12 years and was not active but my wife is very active. I worked my butt off to provide so she could be home with our 2 kids. I just was told by her last week that she no longer loved me and thinks she has found someone else to love. W ehave gone to our 1st counciling meeting last week... it was hard to hear, but I needed to hear it.

Taking a step back, I have always been a independant person, very aggresive at work, former United States Marine. I grew up in the church, although my parents are not mormon (long story). I always have had a foundation, but little interest in church and more interest in sucess and providing for my family.

forward to now, I now realize I was so wrong about my priorities. now it is problably too late, and I most likely won't get my wife's love back. (sad thing is she is in love with a non Mormon?)

Anyway, in all this pain...I have found peace. I have found my faith, it is renewed. It is kind of a blessing. And maybe my marriage will be saved, but I realized reguardless, I have a realtionship with my heavenly father that making me a better man. I can only stay positive, and try to do the right things... and of course pray often. Be not afraid, pray, and believe.

I wish you peace and comfort

[Compassionate]

Originally Posted by Keks3082

(PARDON ME, LET'S NOT SAY FAILING, BUT RATHER...TRYING MARRIAGE)
I'm new to the forums, and I'm so grateful I've found this place and look forward to lots of hope, strength, and encouragement.

My husband and I were married/sealed 6 yrs ago. We have two young children. Our testimonies have always been firm in the gospel. However, reality has hit our marriage and our marriage is in its deepest pit as of now:
-He being in school for 6 yrs of marriage and only now has started his 1st yr of medical school (which is a very long road to go still) has brought much hardships...personal/family debt issues, disagreements, etc.
-communication has always lacked - my husband is an introvert and he'll give me the silent treatment for days to a week at a time. After all these years, I find the "sizzle" has been fading.
-seems to have anger and controlling issues and I can't bear it anymore. It's turned me off completely, and intimacy has been lacking for years. He's a very good person, but often times I feel something is "wrong" when during very heated arguments, he'll bring up something from the scriptures or a G.C. talk, etc. to put me down or shut me up....is that an "ok" way to use the priesthood and counsel with your wife?

I sought counseling our 1st yr, was diagnosed with depression 2nd yr (and I am not a depressed person)and sought counseling again, and sought help from bishops and more LDS counseling recently. My emotional needs and love tank have been running on empty, and a year ago, I made a horrible mistake I absolutely do not justify - I had an affair, but I have since run away from that and taking the appropriate steps to get back to where I need to be.
My husband has always from the 1st year been hesitant to getting counseling together.

I just want our marriage to work, and I want my spouse to be my best friend that I feel I can share my feelings and opinions to without feeling he will explode because he's feeling nagged or attacked. Schooling and career indecisiveness, lack of providing for our family so to speak, not able and totally willing to work on communication issues, and me getting through the repentance process (and he still being unforgiving of that) is more than I can bear. How do you keep the love strong forever despite much hardships?

Our children have heard and seen too much yelling, swearing and contention from him and between us than I want and I don't want it to continue to affect them negatively. I always wanted marriage and my new family life to be 'perfect', and often times I feel like such a failure because of things that have impacted our children that cannot be erased.

Right now he wants out, I've felt that many times as well because I don't see how I can be happy with him for the rest of my life, particularly with his controlling actions and inability to fill my emotional needs. What would help is if every single couple entering marriage had some hard core counseling and education training together, because it can be the most difficult thing in the world, yet the most important.

The last thing I will do is turn my back to God. He has been my greatest source of strength. Any hope for my life, our family, my two precious innocent children?

With whatever hope I have left....
Thank you.

Before I respond, a couple oquestions.

1. How are you supporting medical school?
2. Who supported you during under grad work?
3. How did you meet?