I am headed to the womens shelter shortly

[ServiceDogHandler]

I am getting my bags pack to head to the womens shelter. The police phoned to let me know that my husband is in town and contacted them to get some of his stuff. I let the police know this is what he does every time he comes to town and that I tell them the same thing. I gave all his stuff to his parents back in April. All I have left is my stuff and marital items that the courts have to decide on. Thanks to his girlfriend, who has taken him back(now I no longer worry about her. She knows his history now and she has to make her own mistakes) she let me know he knows where I live. The police warned me that he could want to hurt me and that is why he is stalking me. So I am headed to the womens shelter. I just have to wait for one phone call from the constable.

[Dr T]

I pray that you stay safe at this stressful time.

[ryanh]

Check back in when you have a chance and let us know you are ok! Hopefully your landlord will help like he indicated he would and find you a new place.

Not sure what else to say. Sure wish he would stop. Wish I could do something about it. What's it going to take for the police to figure out his motives? At least the new gf let you know he knows where you live.

Be safe!

[ServiceDogHandler]

Thanks. I should be moving at the end of August. In the province I am in there are no stalking laws. So until he either contacts me, stops me in public or breaks into my house there is nothing the police can do. I think that is not right. There is a no contact order. They should be stopping him from doing this.

I have no idea how to make it stop either. I have moved into hiding once already. I have done everything the police, my lawyer, therpist and the womens shelter has told me to do. What else can I do to make him stop. I just want him out of my life. I am so tired of living in fear. I have been for 7yrs.

[ryanh]

The only thing I can think of is to set him up. Not sure if that could be done safely or not. Probably not worth the risk. I'm sure the shelter has seen it before, so their advice is probably best.

[ServiceDogHandler]

THanks for the tip but I am not taking that chance.

[pam]

Please try and stay in touch with us if you can. Now I'm going to worry about you. You be safe and do what you have to do to do just that.

[Dr T]

I agree Ryan. They deal with it a lot, probably know what to do in that situation, and are there for you. I hear what you're saying, living under that stress is not good and there is a fine line between what the law can do in this type of situation. It has gotten better though with the stalking laws and the concept of just having to report "feeling frightened". Document all events to give to the police (any phone calls, things he's said, etc.)

[Loudmouth_Mormon]

Be safe.

[FairChild]

Stay safe and remember that you are so important. Find little ways to nurture yourself. Please let us know what we can do and how you are doing.