Abandon your child here

[sanguine]

Originally Posted by ZionWoman

Okay, Just one more before, I leave.

I guess what I want to know is what is being done for the PARENT and the rest of the family? It's good to save the child, I'll concede but would you just turn your back on the child's mom?

Do we not believe that Heavenly Father sent this child to this parent for a reason? Would this child not be an influence for good in the life of the parent? Some of you have overcome some appalling childhoods. Would you feel better if you were abandoned? Really?

By all means. Throw away your problems. Give them to the State to deal with. Why should you have to deal with it yourself?

Do you believe every child goes to a chosen parent. I'm sure my adoptive mother (also a blood relative) should NOT have adopted me. I wish she'd dumped me. It's better than dealing with someone who beats, plays planned mind games, constantly belittles and makes attempts on a child's life. It's not worse than being abandoned.

'Throwing away their problems? who's? Iif they don't dump, it's the child problem. It's the child who, can often be abused, never found out by social services, never protected.
If the child is not dumped, the 'problem' can go on for generations to generation, unless a child is able to over come. Many do, many don't.

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The safe haven law is about the parent and the child.

If the parent feels trapped (no matter how true or untrue it may really be), then what is the new mother to do? The responsible ones research their options and go with what's best for their baby. The irresponsible ones end up putting the baby at a great risk - one way or another. Dumpsters have been mentioned before.

I can't believe how a feeling human being can put a gift from our Heavenly Father such like a newborn child to wrap them up in a trash bag and leave them with stinky, smelly garbage. I don't get it.

But I don't have to. I simply want there to be an alternative for these young people who made stupid decisions and are about to make one of their most foolish decisions they can make.

At least they didn't ABORT the baby by this time. But sticking the baby in a dumpster is not only abandonment, but is many times considered attempted murder.

The child deserves more than that - simply because the child cannot make any decisions for themselves.

Now, is the safe haven law perfect? No. No law can be perfect unless we had perfect people who know about the laws and will follow them. As was stated before - you cannot legislate people into perfection. Laws are guidelines of following life. Ethics and morals are the only way for people to live a more perfect life.

In California, we had a proposition regarding the requirement for unwed teenage expectant mothers to require that their parents are notified that they are expecting a child. This was voted against because of other family issues. Not all families are loving. Many have child molesters, beatings and other things that (I would guess) a semi-responsible teenage mother wouldn't want for their own child - let alone letting a family like that know about this pregnancy and opening up a new can of worms in the family.

Bottom line: The famly is at risk. If there is no love in a family, sometimes the best love a mother can give is to give the child up to a family where there is love. There are too many families that are completely dis-functional out there.

Just watch some episodes of "COPS" or the "Maury Povich show" sometime and you'll get a sense of the kinds of families that the Safe Haven law was designed for. It wasn't meant for families like "The Huxtables". Let's give the unprepared mothers a way out from their foolish decision and give the child a chance at a much better life.