I'm a marriage counselor in Southern California

[Mom04]

Welcome Brian... Do you deal much with mixed faith marriage issue?

[SoCal_Counselor]

Originally Posted by Mom04

Welcome Brian... Do you deal much with mixed faith marriage issue?

Yes. When working with couples with these issues, I work with them to identify common goals. If they cannot think of common goals, we all work together to create some appropriate goals for the marriage/family.

[Bootstrap_Dove]

Hello from Kansas City, Missouri

The temple is ready for dedication and my marriage is in progress of divorce.
My husband is a second attempt for me. Both times narcissists.
Was not learned about this and "oops'd" a second time.
Any hope Brian before I sign on the dotted line?

[Bootstrap_Dove]

I do not know where to click to find the rules! First time doing this.

I want to say more but don't know what the guidelines are. lol.

Any help for this lost and wandering computer illiterate?

[Bootstrap_Dove]

Thank you Brian for your post. I feel so comfortable talking with you. Your help is so greatly appreciated. Your service is a resting spot for my weary soul. I don't know how to proceed from here, but will learn over time.

I am very alone. I am late 50's. Me and the dog. Kids all over the US. 5. Mostly estranged from me by x-husband, from first marriage, except 1 out of state at present. The one living close, by is reticent to help but has agreed to accept sensitive mail from the court system for me temporarily, as of yesterday.

[Bootstrap_Dove]

Hello Missy-I appreciate you mentioning opposition. Could you be more specific? You're touching on the subject is an important point for me. Long story, but very important point. So Thanks!

[SoCal_Counselor]

Bootstrap_Dove,
I am not sure if there is hope for your situation as I am not familiar with what is going on or your husband's desire to make the relationship work or not. Stay on here this forum and keep going to different areas within this forum. You will slowly start to figure out how it works. Don't be affraid to ask questions of how to do something. For the rules for this forum, go here.

[jayanna]

Welcome, Brian... How interesting. This is the first time I decided to read a new member post in quite a while. I have been trying to help my sis and her husband who are going through a divorce. It its hurting them and their children. They have been to counselors, but none of them seem interested in preserving the marriage. I don't have the foggiest idea what to do. It is so obvious to me that their main problem I is a lack of forgiveness...with my sis airing a very long list of grievances, and him doing the same in self defense. Any time I get in a conversation with them they do this. They want mercy for him/her self, but justice for the other.

I don't know how to break this cycle...I even took them to church with me and someone gave a talk on that very thing, and they both loved it, even though neither one of them had been to church with me before and they don't attend church anywhere...they are planning to attend separate churches, seeing out as a quaint way of being social, they are much to intelligent, they say, to believe in a religion.

Outside of a church belief, what can I possibly say that can stop this cycle of destroying one another and instill forgiveness?

[roberta]

Glad to see there is a professional marriage counselor on the boards - thanks for being here, hopefully I will be able to air my issues soon. I'm new to the boards and haven't figured out how to make a thread in the marriage section yet.

[pam]

Originally Posted by roberta

Glad to see there is a professional marriage counselor on the boards - thanks for being here, hopefully I will be able to air my issues soon. I'm new to the boards and haven't figured out how to make a thread in the marriage section yet.

Though we need to remember that this is just the profession of someone who frequents this board and is no way affiliated with the ownership of this site. Therefore, the thoughts and views are to be taken as such.