Originally Posted by Utahguy1980
Hoping someone can help me here. 9 years ago I was married in the Temple. 4 years later we were divorced. Is it possible for a man to request a cancellation of sealing? My current girlfriend is extremely worried about marrying me while I am still sealed to my ex wife. While I have tried to explain to her that Heavenly Father would never make us be with someone we didn't want to be with she insists she will not marry me in the Temple until she knows for sure that my sealing has been cancelled. Do I have to wait until my ex wife wants to get remarried in the Temple again? This is a major source of contention in my current relationship and any help would be appreciated.
Yes, you can have your sealing cancelled. You have to go in and discuss this with your specific bishop.
How do I know? My wife and I are both divorced from our previous marriage. She is sealed to her ex husband and she has a child from that marriage. I am not sealed to my former spouse because we never made it to the temple.
Before we go through the temple, she will have to get a cancellation on her previous sealing in order for us to be sealed.
If you have a child from your previous marriage, your child is still protected under the sealing (despite if your former spouse is living up to the standards or not).
My wife was advised not to get her sealing cancelled because of her son. Once we are back in full membership and are able to go to the temple to be sealed to one another, she will then be allowed to have her sealing cancelled.
Now, here is my thought, go in with your girlfriend and talk with your bishop about this concern.
If she still insists that she will not marry you unless you have your sealing cancelled before you even propose to her, then, in all honesty, she does not respect you, your particular situation and I would just inform her that because of this, you can not in any way marry someone who is refusing to understand and respect the particular position you are in. It is better to deal with this now than to do something you will regret. Even if it means telling her to take a hike in very polite terms and find another person. Trust me, someone who does not respect your position and situation is a person that you should not have close to you as a companion.
Why? because if they can't accept and understand and respect you with something like this and work with you and show patience through this entire part of your life and specific circumstances, how are they going to deal with other circumstances that will rise up and challenge your lives together and your marriage? Is she going to demand that she is not going to have anything to do with you if you are laid off and are looking for work and are unemployed for six months?
There is deeper issues she has to deal with that may not be known.