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Old 10-25-2011, 08:12 PM
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Free agency is definitely taken away when your choices are taken away. It is not enough to say oh you have the choice to say no even if you arent going to be able to prevent being forced. If you are forced you had no free agency.
If this were true, then the mere existence of any compelling law would qualify as a Satanic abridgment of agency. I doubt you believe that to be true.

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As I recall that was satans plan.
I don't believe this is so. Can you substantiate this idea from scripture?
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If this were true, then the mere existence of any compelling law would qualify as a Satanic abridgment of agency. I doubt you believe that to be true.


No I dont believe that is true.



I don't believe this is so. Can you substantiate this idea from scripture?
What? You dont believe Satans plan was to not give us free agency?
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The best age to get married is when you are emotionally stable and economically secure.
Well, I guess I'll never get married. Wait, that's not quite right, is it?
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What? You dont believe Satans plan was to not give us free agency?
I believe Satan's "plan", such as it was, was to usurp God's honor and destroy the agency of man. Period.

If you think there is some greater detail to Satan's supposed "plan", then please point it out in scripture. I would be happy to learn.

Laws and punishments do not destroy agency. Arranged marriage does not destroy agency. Making your child eat his peas does not destroy agency.
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Vort, do you mind starting another thread to discuss agency? I think it's a worthy topic, but a definite highjack of this thread.
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Vort, do you mind starting another thread to discuss agency? I think it's a worthy topic, but a definite highjack of this thread.
No problem. Sorry for the hijack. If Anne cares to start another thread, that's fine, but otherwise I don't really care enough to go to the trouble. It's all been hashed over before on this list, anyway.
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Well, I guess I'll never get married. Wait, that's not quite right, is it?
Please don't make me comment on this one.
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I feel that the leaders of the church always speak to the young single adults about not procrastinating marriage for a good reason. Once girls are out of high school and they enter singles wards or college wards...and once young men are back from their missions...we hear the "get married" talk over and over again. I think we should do it as soon as the opportunity to have a righteous marriage comes up, which may be 19 for some, and 30 for others. I was just married about 5 months ago, and I can't begin to tell you how much growth has taken place in these past five months, and how much stronger my wife and I are than we were before our marriage. The leaders of the church don't want us to procrastinate this growth, or the opportunity to have a family. Getting married 4 years later than you could have may mean missing out on 2 children that could have been in your family. Marriage is fantastic and causes such growth in both individuals, we should do it when we're presented with an opportunity, and both in the couple are living as they should be.
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The best age to get married is when you are emotionally stable and economically secure.
"emotionally stable" - I don't know exactly what you mean by this or the measure (me being a very number and definition driven person) but are you really ever "ready" emotionally for marriage. It seems to me something that you are always thrown into half blind and ill-prepared regardless of how prepared or stable you feel. Maybe this is just a inaccurate view from a single guy.

"economically secure" - So I can't get married till I get my PhD and paid off all my debts? that's a long time from now... Considering the vast majority of the Americans are in debt I don't know exactly how you would define this.

These positions I think are valid to a degree but maybe more applicable to children and even then not very holding or at least need more defining.

These guides are ranges not absolutes; you do not wake up one day "emotionally stable" or "economically secure" you are either more or less compared to other people and compared to yourself in the past. Further it is very subjective and as such biased. How would you know if you are emotionally stable of economically secure? And what do you compare it to?
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