Help! Ready to give up going to church and marriage.

[Jezebel2011]

"choose the one you love, love the one you choose" Gordon B. Hinckley (I think)

Have a read of this -

Priesthood Power - general-conference

I once again respectfully ask that my account be deleted.

Someone has managed to track down my real email address(not to hard since I was foolish enough to post a link to some personal info in another thread here) and using a spoofed email account, manged to send me a graphic email telling me what they really think of me and ending that I do my poor wife a favor and do myself in.

To that person, I'm am sorry. I have clearly offended you deeply. I came here knowing I was messed up but thought I was still a son of God who may deserve a chance at getting some help, I guess I'm not even worth that. Though I've had thoughts about doing myself harm recently, I don't think I'll ever do it. I'm to big of a coward and I don't want sympathy over this, I don't deserve it. I got what I deserved in some of the posts and this email.

Please delete my account and I'll darken your door step no more.

[anatess]

???

For real???

[pam]

Originally Posted by FixingTheWrongs

I once again respectfully ask that my account be deleted.

Someone has managed to track down my real email address(not to hard since I was foolish enough to post a link to some personal info in another thread here) and using a spoofed email account, manged to send me a graphic email telling me what they really think of me and ending that I do my poor wife a favor and do myself in.

To that person, I'm am sorry. I have clearly offended you deeply. I came here knowing I was messed up but thought I was still a son of God who may deserve a chance at getting some help, I guess I'm not even worth that. Though I've had thoughts about doing myself harm recently, I don't think I'll ever do it. I'm to big of a coward and I don't want sympathy over this, I don't deserve it. I got what I deserved in some of the posts and this email.

Please delete my account and I'll darken your door step no more.

Please don't let some anonymous ignorant person from the internet dictate to you what you should do, where you should post and influence your thinking that you darken our doorstep.

All of us have our dark days, and if posting here has helped you at all (minus the ignorance of someone who is coward enough to spoof their own email address) then stay.

At this time I'm going to put your request to have your account deleted on hold.

I'd like you to stay.

[IamMe]

I'm a lil slow in seeing this, going back to your original post and questions looking for advice, all I can say...is if you were my husband posting this, I would be so deeply hurt by your post, I'm not sure it's something I would recover from easily, if at all.

My husband and I have both put on a few pounds since our marriage. We could both stand to lose more than just a few pounds. If you really want her to lose some weight, perhaps you need to spend some more time exploring the physical intimacies of your marriage (that can be exercise) and less time noticing how other woman are noticing you..which probably isn't happening nearly as much as you would like to think.

If that doesn't cut it for you, I know of one other way your wife could lose about 200 lbs inside of a day.

[laffopuritain]

Casting Crowns comes to mind.

Casting Crowns - Stained glass masquerade - YouTube

The brethren repeatedly tell us not to compare ourselves to others. It only leads to feelings of inadequacy. Instead, realize when you are growing and when you are not. This is the best way to judge yourself.

The other piece of advice I have is to engage in intimacy even if you're not feeling it. It's called 'making love,' for a reason. It's not all about satiating lusts.

It really is sad that you came here for help and the people who should have been the first to offer you support instead decided to attack what you already realized was a problem. Keep your chin up- they're not the ones who will be judging you in the end. That belongs to the God of Love.

We're told that no man who is continually, honestly trying will fall short of Celestial Glory.

Originally Posted by IamMe

If that doesn't cut it for you, I know of one other way your wife could lose about 200 lbs inside of a day.

As this is the second time I've been told that killing myself is an option to my problems, please remove my account. It is obvious from some of these posts and the email I got that many here really hate me. Please respect my wishes.

[Vort]

Originally Posted by FixingTheWrongs

As this is the second time I've been told that killing myself is an option to my problems, please remove my account. It is obvious from some of these posts and the email I got that many here really hate me. Please respect my wishes.

FixingTheWrongs,

I am sorry that some people on this list seem to feel a deep-seated need to kick people while they're down. I, too, have received hateful emails and PMs, as have many others, so it's not just you. But I agree you have been piled on in an unusual manner. I think it's shameful.

But if you really are done here, why do you care that your account be removed? Just don't sign in. Problem solved. Remove all identifying information from your account and you're golden, whether or not Pam (or someone else) deletes your account.

EDIT: Fwiw, I interpreted IAmMe's comment as a flip reference to divorce, not to your suicide.

[MorningStar]

Originally Posted by Vort

FixingTheWrongs,
I, too, have received hateful emails and PMs, as have many others, so it's not just you.

I'm sorry, OK? GOSH!!!

FixingTheWrongs:

I hope you can work through this somehow. You had to know that both of your appearances were going to change over time. Both of you are going to get old, wrinkley, saggy, gray, possibly bald (hopefully you and not her), etc. Of course you realize that many couples stay together in their old age even though they are no longer that physically appealing. Did you ever think about that before you got married and how you would handle it?

When women have children, that plays a big part in weight gain and so does sleep deprivation. A lot of women are prone to depression. Stick it out and do what's right! Going to counseling would be a good idea too.

[pam]

Originally Posted by FixingTheWrongs

As this is the second time I've been told that killing myself is an option to my problems, please remove my account. It is obvious from some of these posts and the email I got that many here really hate me. Please respect my wishes.

Just for the record..I didn't think they meant killing yourself but divorce.

Also if you are insisting on deleting your account...at the bottom of each page is a "contact us" button. You would need to fill one of those out.