Not sure if it's a sign from God or not

Chrissy3818 · #1 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 06:56 PM

Okay, so when my boyfriend first asked me out I got a sickening feeling that I shouldn't go out with him, and I got sick so I had to post pone. I ignored that feeling and went out with him later on in the week. (not sure if it was Satan or God)

When we talked about marriage I prayed and asked go if he was the one, first time I think it was a yes, but the second time I asked It was a burning "NO" and I got sad and depressed. (not sure if it was Satan or God).

Later on, I actually had one or two dreams about us breaking up. (not sure if this is a sign or not)...

He left somewhere to where we could only write two each other and after two letters he stopped writing and it's now been four months since he's written me. (another sign were not meant to be??)

Now I get a feeling he is the one (but I no longer want him to be the one) (not sure if it was Satan or God).

what do you think, because I am not sure what's going on...

Vort · #2 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 07:08 PM

1. When deeply in doubt, trust your gut.
2. Never seek after signs. Doing so will invariably destroy you.
3. We here in Internet-land have absolutely no idea what you should do. That decision is yours.

beefche · #3 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 07:10 PM

I think this missionary needs to focus on his work. And you need to focus on other things besides him.

So, my answer is no, it is not a sign from God or Satan. It is a sign that life moves on in ways that we don't always like.

Chrissy3818 · #4 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 07:26 PM

In reply to Vort: He hurt me pretty bad when he stopped writing for no reason, so I no longer have that desire to marry him and my family says I shouldn't. I feel that someone else is out their that I have to find, but that is what I think, and I rely on God a lot, so these mixed signals are stressing me out and hurting me more...

beefche · #5 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 07:35 PM

He's just recently on his mission, right? So, regardless if you have a feeling he is the one (which, in my opinion, doesn't exist--there's isn't just "one" for us), he is on a mission. That means by the time he gets off his mission, he will have changed. And hopefully, you will have changed too.

So, what you need to do is focus on other things. Go out with friends, go to school, get a job, go out with other guys, live life. Once he gets off his mission, then you can look him up and see if you two are compatible at that point.

Chrissy3818 · #6 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 07:37 PM

In reply to beefche: Yeah I don't want anything to do with him

Wingnut · #7 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Chrissy3818

Yeah I don't want anything to do with him

Okay, so..........what's the question, then?

Chrissy3818 · #8 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 08:54 PM

In reply to Wingnut: Why do I feel like he's the one, when I don't want him to be?

pam · #9 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 09:02 PM

Because now you are feeling hurt. It goes against your pride somewhat. I'd say, just move on.

Misshalfway · #10 (**permalink**) 07-30-2012, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Chrissy3818

Okay, so when my boyfriend first asked me out I got a sickening feeling that I shouldn't go out with him, and I got sick so I had to post pone. I ignored that feeling and went out with him later on in the week. (not sure if it was Satan or God)

So you got this gut feeling that made you so sick you couldn't go. Hm. My question is what stopped you from listening to your gut right here at the start?

Not sure what God or Satan was doing, but sounds like your gut was functioning just fine.