negativity towards Sister Missionaries - Page 3

Faded · #21 (**permalink**) 03-02-2009, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Tru2u4eternity

I have made the decision that I want to serve a mission. My family is supportive and thrilled about it as is my bishop and other members of my ward but...I have recieved some negative comments about sister missionaries from actual missionaries in the field right now and it angers me. This perticular elder said and I quote "Sister missionaries are just hungry husband hunters" That isn't the first negative comment I've heard but its one of the most irrating to say the least. What are your guys thoughts and oppionions on this especially those of you that have already served missions.

Firstly, I think that Sister Missionaries are absolutely great!

If some of the Elders have some negative things to say ... well, when it all comes down to it, Sisters are also imperfect. The mission I served in had a mission president who had had a house full of boys (6 I think) and no daughters. As a result, he didn't really know how to work with sisters and asked for fewer of them. I always found that very puzzling.

The statement that "Sister missionaries are just hungry husband hunters" is kinda hypocritical. Yes there are sisters that will marry someone they met on their mission. There are also Elders who marry someone they met on their mission. I don't think that there is a higher percentage one way or the other, the accusation a moot point. Accusations and generalizations are silly, and have a lot more to do with leftover High School immaturity than they do with describing how people really are.

Sisters bring a lot of good things. Sisters probably do deserve one bit of bad reputation: If a companionship of Sisters is fighting/not getting along at all, it does seem to get uglier than it does with Elders. This was the main reason that my first mission president asked to get fewer of them -- he didn't know how to deal with that. That's just a general observation, there will be feuding Elder companionships that will easily be as bad or worse.

I wouldn't worry about any of it. I've always been impressed by the effectiveness of Sister Missionaries. The VAST majority of missions are begging for more of them. What does that tell you?

Dravin · #22 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 10:38 PM

Sister Missionaries can rock, or they can be annoying as all get out... so can the Elders. I think the strong reactions you tend to get may be because they are fewer of them, less of a sample size results in a greater chance of statistical anomalies and less influences to normalize ones ideas so you get a more polarized reaction from people.

For what it's worth, my experience was great, but had it been limited to just a couple of the sisters I knew I probably wouldn't think highly of Sisters either.

Wingnut · #23 (**permalink**) 03-11-2009, 11:19 AM

A few more thoughts.

Why do sisters flirt with elders? It's really hard to just not flirt at all for that long. The elders flirt with the sisters, too (and sometimes the young women). (I'm not saying it's okay, I'm just saying that it is.)

As a returned sister missionary myself, I have to confirm that what Vort said is true. There are some sisters out there that really are high maintenance and/or needy and cause problems. There are some that really are just there "because they couldn't get married" and when that's the case, they waste time. They waste their district/zone leaders' time, they waste their companions' time, they waste their mission presidents' time, they waste their own time, and they waste the Lord's time. There are also elders that fit that bill as well. It goes both ways.

Sisters can get into places that elders can't. I don't know how many times I've heard this. Yes, it's true. Yes, women approach things differently than men do. Yes, sister missionaries are a few years older (and therefore more mature) than elders. I learned that there are also places that elders can get into that sisters can't. Sisters are not superheroes. They are people, the same as the elders are. Each missionary will be able to touch a person's life in different ways, and each person will receive things differently.

Madriglace · #24 (**permalink**) 03-11-2009, 12:17 PM

The Elder who said that the sister missionary was a "hungry husband hunter" was and probably still is a bonehead. An Elder in the mission office told my folks they weren't really missionaries ... my dad pointed out that his name plaque said the same thing as the one the elder wore. Then there was the Elder that told them that senior missionaries in the mission were like fresh milk on cereal ... dry was good but the fesh milk just made it perfect. The different types of missionaries are out there for a reason. Different people in the world need them. An elderly sister in my folks first mission said she had had the lessons 7 times and she finally understood when they taught her. The thing is to go and serve the Lord with all your heart. Who cares what a "dippy" Elder thinks ... it's what the Savior thinks of your service that counts. I tried to go on a mission many years ago and was turned down because I was to "fat" ... I found out years later that my papers never left the stake office. I missed being able to serve and am not in a position to serve now ... someone took that away from me and that is something they will have to answer for. I just pray that someone found the person that was waiting for me.

#25 (**permalink**) 09-10-2009, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Tru2u4eternity

I have made the decision that I want to serve a mission. My family is supportive and thrilled about it as is my bishop and other members of my ward but...I have recieved some negative comments about sister missionaries from actual missionaries in the field right now and it angers me. This perticular elder said and I quote "Sister missionaries are just hungry husband hunters" That isn't the first negative comment I've heard but its one of the most irrating to say the least. What are your guys thoughts and oppionions on this especially those of you that have already served missions.

Sister Missionaries were great in my mission. Don't let some jerk Elder discourage you Sister!

Killeen · #26 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 02:45 PM

I heard so many bad things about sister missionaries! However, a lot of them are blessed in meeting leaders inspired and not ready to judge the reason why they are serving a mission. Personally, I was greatly blessed since during my mission we had real team work which allowed us to achieve wonderful goals. They are only prejudices.

LDSVALLEY · #27 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 07:07 PM

As Mission Leader I was very upset when we lost our Sister Missionaries in our second area. As a direct result of changing to Elders we lost all but one Investigator and all the Less Actives they had made such progress with.

Blessed are we with Sister Missionaries!