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10-29-2009, 10:49 PM
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Three main things here.
1. Start documenting everything. 2. Talk to a lawyer about a) a protective order against the new husband (they're very hard to obtain, but you should at least explore the possibility); and b) ask whether your divorce decree contains anything about the kids' religious instruction and, if it doesn't, ask about getting your decree modified. The key in most states is "the best interests of the children"--you can't make your ex and her husband take the kids to church, but you may be able to get an injunction against their hampering the kids' religious development. 3. Also (and I hate to bring this up), have your sons be very, very careful around the new husband and not be alone with him if they can at all avoid it. When grown men offer porn to boys, often it isn't just a desire to "share the goods". Good luck.
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10-30-2009, 10:27 AM
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I really, really wish I could just talk to my ex about these things. She absolutely will not listen. I suspect it's because she's well aware but copes with it by turning the other way, and will brook no attempt by me to get her to deal with it.
They all live in a house owned and co-occupied by her parents, who are active LDS. Part of me wants to try to talk to them about this but I realize that could cause problems for me later if I wind up taking the legal route.
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10-30-2009, 08:12 PM
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Have you talked to your children about a safety plan? It would be good to have a talk about good and bad touching as well as the appropriate things to do in case something bad happens. Do they a way to contact you in case of emergency? Who else could they contact in case of emergency? What is available at school as a means of counseling and adults to talk with? A safety plan would be good, even if there would be no worry about what goes on in Mama's house. FC
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10-30-2009, 08:20 PM
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It might be helpful to get as many others as possible to be documenting what they see as well. Good luck. FC
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10-30-2009, 09:34 PM
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10-31-2009, 08:45 AM
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Sounds as if you are really thinking this all out. You're good!
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