When to give 'The Talk'

[Elgama]

5th grade is too late to find out about sex - girls can start periods at 8, boys by 10/11 and incresingly it is happening younger. By that point children should know why their body is changing and from their parents the purpose of life and why chastity is important. If children as young as 11 and 12 are getting pregnant the talk needs to happen earlier

-Charley

[applepansy]

Originally Posted by talisyn

I cannot believe it's been almost 10 years since I held the most beautiful little girl in the world for the first time (I say this knowing full well every baby is the most beautiful baby in the world). It was just a few months ago I looked at my daughter and realized she left the 'child' stage and is well into the pre-adolescent stage of physical development, kind've like a german shepherd puppy, all big feet and ears. I now have the task of giving the talk, and I'm at a loss. There have been a few times when I was all ready to go when my heart just failed. I'm usually fearless, and I've answered questions when they've come up, but how do I get to the part of answering questions she doesn't even know she needs answered?

Is she in public school? You need to pray for courage and support and just jump in heart first. In all liklihood she knows more than you want her too already. Kids get a lot of information from friends, TV, etc. Its important that you use every opporunity to discuss your values and your hopes and dream for her.

Good Luck,
applepansy

P.S. The resources Connie and LM posted are great. I would also suggest For the Strength of Youth. Standards: <i>For the Strength of Youth</i>

[kathysmike]

One way I approached the Chasity talk with my son was too draw on the analogy of our bodies being temples, then asked if we just throw open the doors of our Temples and let anyone in, I then likened being worthy of and having a temple recommend, to that of having a marriage license and being married. We then had a good long talk about chasity, puberty and his responsibility to keep himself pure. This talk was prompted when I discovered he had tried to look at inappropriate sites on the internet, as a result he lost all computer privileges for quite sometime. I know I was inspiered to take this approach, he said he had heard our bodies were temples but never understood what that meant.
He has since come to me with questions as he grows. This has brought us much closer. Honesty and explaining things in a manner the child can understand is the best approach.

[hordak]

Originally Posted by Elgama

5th grade is too late to find out about sex - girls can start periods at 8, boys by 10/11 and incresingly it is happening younger.

-Charley

I never got mine

But what is the average age? I have heard it was happening earlier due to hormones in milk.

[Elgama]

Originally Posted by hordak

I never got mine

But what is the average age? I have heard it was happening earlier due to hormones in milk.

lol dunno but we got our sex ed at 7 in school by enlightened health professionals, my school head teacher did the boys they were told they needed to wash behind their ears and stay away from girls

-Charley

[hordak]

Originally Posted by Elgama

lol dunno but we got our sex ed at 7 in school by enlightened health professionals, my school head teacher did the boys they were told they needed to wash behind their ears and stay away from girls

-Charley

Yeah but your a Brit right? Here in the states we have people upset that sex ed (to 16 year olds) might tell them about condoms.

[talisyn]

Originally Posted by talisyn

They do. But kids (esp girls) are maturing a whole lot faster. When I was in school it was 6th grade and it was already a year too late for me and a few others girls lol.

Yikes! I reread what I posted and realized it didn't come out quite right. What I meant was physical changes had already taken place the year before, not the sex part ><

[Elgama]

Originally Posted by hordak

Yeah but your a Brit right? Here in the states we have people upset that sex ed (to 16 year olds) might tell them about condoms.

we get people like that here too - I just needed to explain condoms weren't water bombs to my daughter lol kinda like My parents needed to explain vibrators to my little brother after he had been using one as a rocket. I just think in todays society if its left to late we may lose our precious little ones because of naivety

-Charley

[talisyn]

Originally Posted by Elgama

we get people like that here too - I just needed to explain condoms weren't water bombs to my daughter lol kinda like My parents needed to explain vibrators to my little brother after he had been using one as a rocket. I just think in todays society if its left to late we may lose our precious little ones because of naivety

-Charley

Oh goodness, I bet those were quite the talks.

[Elgama]

Originally Posted by talisyn

Oh goodness, I bet those were quite the talks.

LOL because I grew up with it being a natural topic it was more of a giggle than anything for me to do same with my daughter we just deal with things simply and straight as they come up.

-Charley