Modesty - A question in child rearing and clothing - Page 2

SeattleTruthSeeker · #11 (**permalink**) 09-30-2009, 01:48 PM

Thank you everyone for your sound advice here. I talked with my wife about it (and it is an ongoing discussion, even while we are shopping for clothes for her).

On the one hand, we don't want her to wear just jeans and t-shirts, but we also do not want her to wear dresses and skirts all the time. And, if we find something that is like a tank top, we will try and find a shirt that will compliment it and then use that as an outfit, or not get it at all.

I want her to take pride in herself, and have a self-confidence that just blows people out of the water, but still be a sweet girl. We want her to be herself.

In fact, I commented to my wife the other day (we happened to be in the Bra section at JCPenny) how she will come up to me and say "Dad, I need to go shopping for a new bra and panty" My wife just cracked up saying, "Yeah, can't wait for that day to happen now can you...that will be very interesting"

The whole issue is knowing where to be a parent and say "No" and yet still allow her to make her own decisions without making her feel bad or guilty.

Hemidakota · #12 (**permalink**) 09-30-2009, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by hordak

Bingo

I have a 5 year old girl and i will not let her wear a 2 piece bathing suit. People say shes too young to worry about being provocative and perhaps i'm too strict. They way i see it is it is better to instill the rules now then trying to explain why they changed later.

When i was a little kid i never wore a bike helmet, i was low to the ground and didn't go that fast so my parents saw no reason for them. Then when i got older, rode farther, faster, and in traffic my father decided it was time for me to get one. Needless to say after years of not having one i didn't see any reason for it later and he couldn't get me to wear one when i really "needed" it.

Because of this experience i think it's best to start the standards you wish to enforce at a young age.

Same here... it is not allowed in our home either, whether for our own pool or at the local beach.

will227457 · #13 (**permalink**) 10-06-2009, 04:12 PM

WOW all way to stric for me, Im all for modesty, but a tank top on an infant is just plain cute...and a lil sun dress super cute....My daughter will dress modestly and I will teach her the principles behind our modest dress standard, but jeez to impose it on an infant? really?

I realize that I am in the minority and please don't take this the worng way but it all sounds a little extreme.....

beefche · #14 (**permalink**) 10-06-2009, 04:18 PM

Curious, will, at what age will a tank top be immodest for a girl?

will227457 · #15 (**permalink**) 10-06-2009, 04:43 PM

beefche, when she starts to wear garments

SeattleTruthSeeker · #16 (**permalink**) 10-06-2009, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by will227457

WOW all way to stric for me, Im all for modesty, but a tank top on an infant is just plain cute...and a lil sun dress super cute....My daughter will dress modestly and I will teach her the principles behind our modest dress standard, but jeez to impose it on an infant? really?

I realize that I am in the minority and please don't take this the worng way but it all sounds a little extreme.....

I agree that these are cute. Yet, what is wrong with sleeves? There is no extreme here. Even though you may feel or think it is extreme, the reality is that we are not going to wait when she is 8 and say "okay, now start wearing more modest clothing". It builds habit, habit forms, and becomes easier.

will227457 · #17 (**permalink**) 10-06-2009, 10:00 PM

Seattle, there is nothing wrong with sleeves I have them on all my shirts...LOL....

in your post you asked what is to staunchly modest I am only giving my opinion, I see no immodesty in tank tops or shorts that do not go to the knee..now before I get jumped on are there tanks that are inapropiate for a girl yes are there shorts that are to short yes and as a parent we need to monitor that.... but at what age is it necessary for a child to dress "modestly" you threw out 8 yrs old, I would argue that as long as the child is tastefully dressed they can wear tank tops shorts, and skirts till they are required to wear the garment...

beefche · #18 (**permalink**) 10-06-2009, 10:02 PM

Just something to think about....

When I received my endowments, I didn't have to change my wardrobe except for a couple of pairs of shorts. Some women I knew had to almost buy a whole new wardrobe because their clothes were not compatible with garments.

will227457 · #19 (**permalink**) 10-07-2009, 11:04 AM

Yeah my wife had to change her wardrobe...thank goodness I'm not a girl....

Generally_Me · #20 (**permalink**) 10-07-2009, 04:35 PM

I will be having to change my wardrobe

But that's my own fault... lol