Modesty - A question in child rearing and clothing

[annamaureen]

After I got garments, I only had to get rid of a few items of clothing... my roommate at the time, who went through the temple shortly before I did, had to replace almost half her clothes, and complained about it contantly.

[talisyn]

Congrats on the new addition!

Yes I agree it is important to teach modesty. However, it is important also to teach kids that just because something has sleeves doesn't mean it's good to wear. My daughter has a lengthy body so the only modest swimsuit she's been able to wear is a tankini. I've also allowed her to wear tank tops when she was little and over teeshirts now that she's older. Kids can understand that what was ok for a little kid may not be for a bigger one. They are usually so eager to be adults that they have no problem dressing to adult standards. Sadly, in some families that means baby thongs and padded training bras.

Padded baby bras!!!!!!! I couldn't believe it when I saw that at Wal-Mart. Of course my daughter wanted the super-sized one until I let her try it on (ok I admit it, I was in the mood for a good laugh). Out of her own volition she went and chose one that was much much smaller. Yet when she puts it on she looks like a pair of submarines ready for war (I swear it looked much better in the store). Totally of her own free will that particular undergarment hasn't seen the light of day in months. Like I said, kids are capable of choosing the right when they have the way pointed out for them

[lizzy12]

I wore all tank tops and short skirts and 2 piece "kinys" (bikinis) when i was younger. When i entered kindergarten i stopped (our school said no tank tops or shorts above fingers anyway). I have never had a problem with modesty. My own children will probably not be wearing such things though. I will buy sleeveless dresses (thick strap..not the spaghetti strap)that they can were with a sweater or shirt underneath when they are out. I see nothing wrong with a 3 year old wearing a sleeveless dress.
(15 btw)

[JessicaHarper]

Congratulations on the little girl! Yay! They are so much fun.

My husband and I have an almost 2 year old. She has worn tank tops before, especially when it is really hot outside, etc. No, we have not bought her a bikini or anything of that nature, and, we will not. We didn't pierce her ears and I have never painted her nails. Kids grow up too fast as it is.

My husband and I are not LDS, so we do not wear garments, but we do dress modestly. I hope this helps.

[talisyn]

I didn't allow my daughter to have pierced ears either, JessicaH. I've told her many times not until she's 13 (at least). In all honesty, it probably has more to do with me not wanting to take care of them for her

Kids do grow up too fast!