Will He Ever Go?

[mom_of_jcchlsm]

why? Because of her age? so many parents (especially with their first or second kids) get uptight over potty training their child early - sort of a prideful thing - "my daughter was trained by her second birthday" - "oh, very nice. we had little Joshie trained by 18 months, but he's ever so bright." - "my, my, 18 months? why did you wait so long?" etc. - makes me want to gag. Of course, I was right there with them when my oldest was training. We have six down, one to go now, and I have to say that children will train very easily when they are ready. "Ready" may be at 18 months and it may be 4 years. But when they're ready, it will almost happen by itself. Before that, it can be forced, but it's no fun for either parent or child. And when I hear that a child is potty trained before age 2, I often think that it's more the parent who's trained, not the child.

[lannesackman]

He pooped in the potty yesterday! NOw if I can get him to pee with out sticking his hand in it... or it going EVERYWHERE!! But heck he is going.. mostly by himself and staying dry through the night.. so a little pee to clean up is no big deal.

This is the 4th attempt to potty train. The other times he wasn't ready and it was a battle that wasn't worth fighting. This time he was ready and the last time he wore a diaper and it got wet he got disgusted and took it off. So I totally agree that it is when the child is ready.. My sister was 2, had no accidents.. My brother was 4 until he was fully trained.,.. and they are both very smart people.. So it is not a question of IQ.

[shanstress70]

why? Because of her age? so many parents (especially with their first or second kids) get uptight over potty training their child early - sort of a prideful thing - "my daughter was trained by her second birthday" - "oh, very nice. we had little Joshie trained by 18 months, but he's ever so bright." - "my, my, 18 months? why did you wait so long?" etc. - makes me want to gag. Of course, I was right there with them when my oldest was training. We have six down, one to go now, and I have to say that children will train very easily when they are ready. "Ready" may be at 18 months and it may be 4 years. But when they're ready, it will almost happen by itself. Before that, it can be forced, but it's no fun for either parent or child. And when I hear that a child is potty trained before age 2, I often think that it's more the parent who's trained, not the child.
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I SO agree with you, Mom of J! It's so not important when they are trained. Now that it is all behind us, speaking of my son, I wonder why I stressed so much and I realize it's bc of comments like you're speaking of from others. Why do people care when your child is potty-trained? It doesn't affect them.