When Delegation Isn't Successful

[Wingnut]

Originally Posted by mormonmusic

I don't understand why you asked this question....I'm hoping the implications are meant to be offensive...

I have to agree with Pam. You seem to do a lot of complaining about various scenarios in the Church, whether leadership-related or otherwise.

I don't consider this OP, or other problem-based OP's I have started complaining -- Here I presented a common situation that happens in the Church, and have asked for conceptions and answers. I've also shared my own after some reflection.

Several people have posted thoughtful answers showing engagement inthe question. One has even indicated the same question came up in a Stake meeting and caused significant discussion, which tells me it's a widespread issue worthy of discussion.

I won't go into the details again, but as you might know, I recently (last 6 months) and voluntarily left a priesthood leadership calling in a very difficult ward. For the time being, I would rather not accept another priesthood leadership position. However, I hope to do so again some day -- but I'm in a period where I'm trying to reflect upon the challenges I faced, and to also develop the necessary attitude conditioners so issues that caused me to leave the calling won't get to me again.

This forum has been a place where you can ask those questions and share those opinions that aren't safe to share at Church, so I've posed a few things that are yes, things that aren't working, in hopes of developing greater strength in these areas.

I've already formed opinions based on the problems I've posted here about how to handle reluctant home teachers, over-aggressive stake leaders, frustration at great effort leading to minimal results, and reporting home teaching numbers . All after considering comments from people on the discussion forum.

Last fall/winter, this site actually pulled me out of a desire to just be inactive after I quit my calling a while ago. My wife was deeply concerned because of how I was feeling about my first (first LONG) experience as a priesthood leader. We both attribute the supportive comments people on this forum made about how I was feeling about the experience as the turning point. And the ongoing flood of intelligent answers to some of the questions I've had in teaching gospel classes at Church has been very useful in my subsequent calling.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me, to find the questions engaging, or even interpret my motives properly -- interpret at will; all you have is the written word which represents only a part of what I am.

Another thing I've learned,-- you can't predict how people will react to the things you do or say, and you can't let it get to you. The reaction of some of you to this OP is a case in point.

[SanctitasDeo]

Well, thank you for your questions and posts. They started very informative discussions. I just returned from a mission in Russia, and I have thought a lot about the way branches and wards work because of some of the problems I faced there. There is a lot of valuable information and opinions here, and I hope to be better prepared for a future calling because of it.