Crying "Little Ones"

zippy_do46 · #1 (**permalink**) 11-11-2009, 11:19 AM

How are you handling crying in your Nurseries? Where are your lines drawn and how do you handle parents who stay.
I redirect and use song. Sometimes all fails. I then take the child to one of the parents. This is why I have tried to get personal info on all my "little ones" before they come in. On the way I will feed the child all those things to let her or him know that we love to have them in the Nursery. I also want them to know that mom or dad is in there class and will come and get them after Nursery. If the parent brings them back I then talk to the parent. We both work out a way for the child to have a good experience. I tell the parent that because I know crying of one child stresses out the other children I will not let a child just cry it out in my class. If they decide to stay with their child I encourage them to take part in the schedule so that they can see what we are doing. This is so they can work with the child at home. I post words to activities and songs on my walls every Sunday. This way it is there for all to see. :0) this helps the parents take part in the class. I have to say this. There are "little ones" who are just not ready to come in the Nursery. The numbers are right but they are just not ready. This happen not long ago. We tried everything! I mean everything even Mom or Dad. She cried with them there. The minute she walks through the door. They decided that they would just share her in their classes. After about a month she was back. This time she walk in the door and started playing.

Generally_Me · #2 (**permalink**) 11-11-2009, 12:52 PM

This is much better than the nursery in our ward.

Mahone · #3 (**permalink**) 11-11-2009, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by zippy_do46

How are you handling crying in your Nurseries?

Sedatives.

havejoy · #4 (**permalink**) 11-11-2009, 09:08 PM

Duct tape, but then I'm in Texas.

zippy_do46 · #5 (**permalink**) 11-12-2009, 10:50 AM

ok ok :0) fresh out of duct tape. I have a Sunday afternoon talk to myself laid out across my bed. ;0) Are you getting the support that you need from your PP? I am very blessed in that. On another site I am suprized at the number of NL that are told it is their problem. I believe this is the reason we have such a high burn out and why the Nursery becomes a babysitting service instead of the first class in the Primary program.

Misshalfway · #6 (**permalink**) 11-12-2009, 11:05 AM

I don't know if there is any circumstance that works with every kid or every set of parents. But in my experience (and my kids cried like crazy at first), it is the nursery leaders who ask parents to leave and who don't take the kid immediately to the parents. The kid learns crying doesn't bring mom and the child learns to adapt quicker. It took my first child 8 months to adapt to nursery. But we were new parents and catered to every cry. It my second three weeks and we thank the nursery leader who shooed us out.

I don't know why but sometimes mom being there makes things worse. Like going to the dentist or other stuff. Kids behave better when parents leave them alone to deal.

(generally. not always.)

zippy_do46 · #7 (**permalink**) 11-12-2009, 07:42 PM

I agree, that is the reason we try everthing we can think of before we take them to their parents. In all my years in the Nursery I have never found 2 children even in the same family to react the same. I just can't let them cry themselves out. My heart is just not in that method. I see and feel the stress not only in that child but the children around them. I have been blessed though and I know it. I have never had a parent really get mad at me for doing this. I have been blessed with an understanding PP in most of my Nurseries. I do pray for my "little ones" calling them by name. I pray for understanding. My daughter says I have also been bless with only a singing voice that the 'little ones" love. :0) I do know that singing to that child as I take them to their parent seems to help me calm them down. Then I start talking using the info I have on their information sheets.( Ex. their pet's name, talking about their parents or even brothers and sisters ) The child that I mention above was the bishop's daughter. I tried everything and they worked with me . She was just not ready. When she stayed others would start crying. I know her parents worked with her and I have been in her home. Now she is back and she is ready.