Are you a gamer's widow?

[skalenfehl]

I used to play video games like there was nothing else in life. One day I just didn't care to play them anymore. My wife plays more video games than I do. These days I'm usually on the computer, or at least I leave it on and multi-task because I read through forums, do research, write stories, all while working on laundry, working out or doing other activities. I don't consider myself a video junkie, but I could definitely budget my time and activities more intelligently.

[BenRaines]

My first game was the original nintendo and the game that came with it, Zelda. When all the kids went to bed and later when my wife went to bed I would stay up and play until 2 AM. Once that was conquered I didn't play much for years. Then we got a computer. I have been a player of Starcraft for years. Again I only play after everyone is in bed. Now I play Command & Conquer on the computer, on the Xbox and also have a Wii system for the grandkids.

All my gaming is still done after wife has gone to bed. I hever let gaming get in the way of my fatherly or husbandly responsibilities.


Ben Raines

[applepansy]

My SIL has fallen into the internet and drowned. . . in the gaming. Her teenage son is getting Fs because he's gaming. Her autistic child is not getting the therapies he needs. And her 8yo daugher is neglected. My brother's job takes him out of town 4-5 days a week.

she also filed for divorce.

I'm not dis-ing gaming. . . but it needs boundaries.

applepansy

[RachelleDrew]

My husband and I play together, and actually make a good deal of money on the side selling services to other gamers.

I've never had a problem with gaming because this is a hobby that we enjoy together and it hasn't become an issue of relationship neglect. If it were to become a problem, the computers and systems would go on ebay. Family shouldn't be second to an electronic box.

[mightynancy]

My husband doesn't play games at all, nor sports.

I am, however, a Scouting widow.

[georgia2]

I can never complain about this one! My husband doesn't play games or anything like it on the internet! and neither do i! Always thought it a waste of time. When I feel I'm spending too much time doing things like this forum, I switch over and work on my genealogy!

[YoungMormonRoyalist]

May I point out that playing Rome: Total War helped me get 98% on the History SAT? I actually knew about some obscure Roman soldier who almost seceded the entirety of Spain from the republic pre-empire....weird huh.

[Kyra]

My husband spends way too much time playing stupid World of Warcraft. I don't mind so much when he only spends an hour or so playing, but he gets too involved and loses track of time. I try to pull him away, but he doesn't realize he spends so much time on there.

It's better than it used to be though. It finally got to the point a little over a year ago that I left him for a short amount of time. I told him he needed to decide between his games and his family. Lucky for him he knows what's important, because it's getting to that point again. If he doesn't cut back a LOT, he's going to have to decide again.

And I'm not overreacting, even though he thinks I am. It gets bad enough that I can't trust him to take care of my girls when I'm not home. He was home with the baby today while I was at church. I came home to find her covered in my mascara completely naked, and he had no idea. We've already almost lost her once, and she wasn't even being neglected at the time. I'm not going to allow him to take chances like that.

Just the last few days I've actually considered shutting off our internet. I probably would have already, but I need it to homeschool my daughter.

[Alana]

He plays World of Warcrack. He has probably 20 odd characters on there but will with a certain favorite for a while. Right now the character he is on has been played 67 days. Thats 67 days X 24 hrs. Of course, probably about 5 days of that is idle time, when he's done on WoW but doesn't sign off, until it auto signs off. Still, if that character is 6 months old that's 8 hours every day. I'm not sure how old that character is, but not more than a year, probably about 8 months. SO we got in a big fight, and now he's finally eating dinner with us. That is nice. ANd look, right now I'm on the computer! Shocking. It's kind of like, if I come home and he's NOT on the computer I think either the computer broke or he's throwing up sick. It's been a little better, but today when I commented how many hours he played his one character he said 'there's a lot of people who play more than me.' I said 'so there are wives out there more miserable than me?' He asked if I was miserable and I said 'sometimes i"m so sick of the computer, of only seeing you on it, it's not easy.' Not sure if he was listening though.

[RachelleDrew]

WoW Widows have two options:

A. Start a character and play with him.

B. Uninstall the game and throw the disks away. Block Blizzard's website so he cannot order anymore copies. Follow this action by grabbing a can of gasoline and burning your local GameStop to the ground. Your spouses will sift through the ashes to find a copy, so make sure you slash their tires so they can't get to the crimescene. Even then, you may just have to cut his fingers off while he sleeps.

I'm serious, World of Warcraft and Everquest are two of the most addictive games i've ever played. WoW is the game my husband and I play. We make lots of money selling gold and characters to people like your husbands. They will never get enough ladies.