Are you a gamer's widow?

ZionWoman · #1 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 05:49 PM

I'm just thinking about this a lot and I wondered exactly how common this problem is. Does your husband spend hours and hours on the computer/x-box/Wii gaming? Does he come home from work, peck on the cheek, wave to the kids and disappear into the basement/den/computer room and not emerge again until late in the night?

nc31410 · #2 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 06:03 PM

HAHA this is funny to me...mainly because my husband plays computer games. So yeah my husband does that!!

Elgama · #3 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 06:12 PM

deal in our house is we do dinner, put kids to bed and then sit down together with a game lol would he consider letting you join him?

-Charley

skalenfehl · #4 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 08:21 PM

Hey, I resemble this discussion!

Wingnut · #5 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 08:21 PM

This was a dealbreaker for me when I was dating. I had dated a few guys who were addicted, and after about two, I decided that that was one thing I specifically DID NOT want in a husband. So we talked about it while we were dating. We will never own an Xbox, or anything like it. Perhaps someday a Wii (or its next generation), but more for the sports-type activities that can be done as families.

Celica · #6 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 09:00 PM

this is my hubby to a T

ZionWoman · #7 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by skalenfehl

Hey, I resemble this discussion!

Then maybe you can help us?

What can we do? We so lonely!

ZionWoman · #8 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Wingnut

This was a dealbreaker for me when I was dating. I had dated a few guys who were addicted, and after about two, I decided that that was one thing I specifically DID NOT want in a husband. So we talked about it while we were dating. We will never own an Xbox, or anything like it. Perhaps someday a Wii (or its next generation), but more for the sports-type activities that can be done as families.

Good on ya! I talked to my husband about it before we got married too. I did not want ugliness brought in through video games. We agreed to keep our game systems to Nintendo varieties bc I like Mario Bros. Games but that all games would have to be G-rated (this was before the rating system - wow did I just make myself look old?) He complies, mostly. I think his weekly online game involves blowing other people to pieces.

nc31410 · #9 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 10:07 PM

hmm...my hubby plays when he gets the chance. He works alot so thats his way to unwind. And well I let him be. I'm not going to complain, as long as he still puts his family first! And he does. We go out we take our daughter out. We all have fun. Its his hobby. I do admit at first I HATED IT...but just came to realize I don't want to be that "wife" who will have him give up his hobbies, so like i said i let him be as long as we come first! And he does the same for me!

Life is good.

As far as what game he plays? World of Warcraft...If anyone knows about this game you know how life is...hahaha, he has actually tried to get me into it as well (twice) Me? Not so much...I can't stand sitting in a chair for more than an hour...so i gave up, besides I got lost in the game...ROFL...it works though.

I know that sometimes this gets so serious it ends up in divorce...sadly but i've seen it happen!!!

Elgama · #10 (**permalink**) 11-23-2008, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by ZionWoman

Good on ya! I talked to my husband about it before we got married too. I did not want ugliness brought in through video games. We agreed to keep our game systems to Nintendo varieties bc I like Mario Bros. Games but that all games would have to be G-rated (this was before the rating system - wow did I just make myself look old?) He complies, mostly. I think his weekly online game involves blowing other people to pieces.

speaking as someone who enjoys playing it can be very therapeutic lol - we have Buffy the Vampire Slayer which I do enjoy I get to kick his butt. Maybe you could suggest games you can be involved with together? Is there anything you like - I love strategy or Role Play Games and we build city together or control a Sim or we sit and enjoy the story with the Role Playing Games - we are weighing up which new Console to buy I am interested by the Wii but the PS3 has Suikoden 5 coming out on it a game I have played since the original - we do limit it to one console plus a couple of DS's in the family though.

Also its nice for my hubby, he gets to go online and play with his friends from home, when he does this I get on with some sewing or reading, but we sit in the same room

-Charley