how do I put this...???

[applepansy]

Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp

[COLOR="DarkOrchid"]In our Ward the active member do not have Home Teachers or Visiting Teachers. We only visit less active sisters.This means I have no priesthood contact as we have no priesthood in our home. If my children or I need a blessing we really do not have anyone to contact which leaves me feeling lost an out on a limb too.

You need to talk to your bishop. All single or widowed mothers need Home Teachers. Its church policy and if its not being done in your ward you need to find out why. You need access to the priesthood. If you don't get a satisfactory answer from your Bishop/Branch President then talk to the Stake.

Then I had a problem with the sister I have been newly teamed with as a VT. We visited in January but when I tried to arrange with her to go out in February she said she was far too busy- then I learned that she had done visits on her own which again made me feel totally unwanted.

There are times when I wonder if I really do belong to this church.

You do belong. Everyone belongs sometimes we struggling with feelings of being alone and that no one cares. This is Satan snd your testimony is being tested. Ask yourself this "Am I at church for myself or for the other members?" I'll bet you're a member for you. You have a testimony. When our testimony wavers or When we feel alone its best to pray more and read the scriptures more . . . also, volunteer to do something in RS if you can.


You are a daughter of our Heavenly Father and He loves you. He knows your struggles. Let Him help. “There is no need for any of us to walk alone. We can look up and reach out for divine help.” Thomas S. Monson, Ensign, Oct 1993, 2 (Thank you Angelonawing for the WOW quote today)


applepansy

[annamaureen]

Originally Posted by lestertheemt

Plus they are doing the one thing that gets under my skin more then anything....dropping by unannouced!

I hate that! Both my visiting teachers and home teachers do this. Once they came by on the last day of the month, at nearly 10 pm. My husband and I were sitting around in our garments watching TV, and I was half asleep on the couch! We had to scramble to get dressed and look vaguely presentable.

[beefche]

Originally Posted by annamaureen

I hate that! Both my visiting teachers and home teachers do this. Once they came by on the last day of the month, at nearly 10 pm. My husband and I were sitting around in our garments watching TV, and I was half asleep on the couch! We had to scramble to get dressed and look vaguely presentable.

Were they watching the movie RM before they decided to "visit" you at 10 pm on the 31st? I wouldn't have answered the door--or at the very least, cracked it and told them to jump in the nearest lake.

[MorningStar]

Yes, I would meet them somewhere else, giving me time with my husband later after he wakes up. And possibly a note on the door that says, "Don't ring. Husband napping." :P

[LDSVALLEY]

Since I'm a guy I don't know if it is appropriate to stick my two cents in but....
I think it is wrong for them to come over unannounced. And it should fit your schedule as well as theirs. But.....

I work night shift and sleep during the day for the last 8 years. I don't see the problem with having them over when he is sleeping. Us men are not supposed to be listening in anyway. My wife has had hers over when I'm asleep. Does this mean you never have friends or family or kids around when he is asleep? If so what's the difference?

In the end however, it is not for me to say, if you are not happy then talk to the RS President.

[mightynancy]

This is an old thread (I wonder how it worked out?), but here are my two cents.

My husband used to work nights, and I tried not to have anyone over when he was sleeping. The doorbell sets the dog to barking and the kids to running, and the living room shares a wall with the master bedroom. It just didn't work well, given our household and the layout of our home.