plastic surgery

[glow_inthe_dark_girl]

I'd say go for it if you think that will make you more self confident then do it ... my friend is going to have a rhinoplasty because he thinks that would make him happier . to me is not selfish...

i want the lasik surgery (eye surgery) but my parents won't let me...

[pam]

There are a couple of things I wish I could do. But since insurance won't pay for cosmetic and I certainly can't pay out of pocket..I will just have to live with my imperfections.

[Jenamarie]

Originally Posted by pam

There are a couple of things I wish I could do. But since insurance won't pay for cosmetic and I certainly can't pay out of pocket..I will just have to live with my imperfections.

Only until the Millenium.

[pam]

So true JenaMarie.

[lovemykids]

thanks ladies for your comments....I think it is hard for men to understand how it makes us feel to look one way and then have beautiful babies and then look completely different...I do not think that plastic surgery is a cure-all....My husband and I are very happily married...he just gets discouraged that I can't take a compliment...I don't know yet if I will get a tummy tuck or not...it is a big decision...that my husband and I will make together....thanks for your help

[Gwen]

ok i see a tummy tuck after babies or large amts of weight loss as different than just getting one cause you don't like your tummy. after having babies you have scars, scars that can make you feel bad about your self image. i see nothing wrong with improving that. if someone was in a car accident and had damage to their face ppl would see them getting cosmetic surgery as different than those that are just "altering their body". so why should removing the scars from having babies any different? i was told once that some insurance plans will cover a tummy tuck within a certian time frame after having kids ... something to look into?

oh and i'm planning on getting one once i know for sure i'm done having kids..... not saying i won't change my mind come that point but right now i've already told my husband i want one. lol

[lovemykids]

I have had three beautiful little girls all delivered by c-section...gained some weight over those 4 1/2 years...now I have lost about 40 pounds...and let me tell ya...the tummy that I complained about ten years ago, I would kill for today...that is all I want back....I just want to feel good about the way I look....

[Hemidakota]

Then do it....

[Alana]

There are a few boob jobs in the ward. Anyways, I'm a candidate for a tummy tuck. I also think i like my body way more than most of the skinny girls at church. Well, except for the aerobics instructor. How could she NOT like that body? Anyways, I might be getting fat and saggy, but all it takes is for a bad cold and I'm like 'I love you body! Just be healthy and happy!' I won't be going in for surgery anytime soon, if I can afford it or not. To each their own. I believe my friends when they say I'm great the way I am, even though they are obsessing about not being able to fit into their size 4 jeans two months after giving birth.

[hankpac]

The original poster has her answer, as far as the actual procedure goes.
However, when she posted, and again later, she alludes to insecurities that are at the foundation of her desire to get this done.

If one just goes into the office that does this, there probably won't be any counseling done, which would happen if the procedure were done following a referral from her doctor. Why is this important?

Because often, when insecurity is at the basis of the request for surgery (any surgery) it turns out that the surgery was not the answer to the problem. The patient is still insecure, unhappy, or still has whatever problem she (or he, to a lesser extent) went in with.

However, if a person has some counseling along with the procedure, and has her self-image bolstered, and doesn't go in expecting the wrong things (if I got this done, then I would feel better about myself, and would be happy), she will do much better, than without.

I have seen many people who end up going back again and again, seeking that final magic touch that will make them happy, able to accept compliments, feel better, etc.

I have also seen patients who are really successful after surgery, who went in well prepared, and knew what to expect.

A final thought: A compliment (You really look nice today) doesn't mean he thinks you look like someone else (someone you are not) it means to him, your appearance is pleasing and makes him feel good. Try saying: "Thanks, I am glad I please you." Or "When you say that it makes me feel good/pretty", every time, until you actually mean it. Absolutely do not say what you usually say, practice it, until you can do it. If you keep denying the compliment, eventually you stop getting them, and it becomes self-fulfilling (He never compliments me. I must be unlovely or ugly, he hates me, he can't stand my looks...etc).

People who are insecure in this manner, often hold other people up for themselves as ideals of what they wish they looked like. "I wish I was thin like her, and pretty like her, and handle the kids like that one does, and was adored by thousands like that one, and could cook like that one, and had a house like hers, etc etc."
This is a recipe for failure. Instead we should be appreciating that our mate, who chose us for eternity, loves and appreciates us exactly how we are.

If he says you look great. Believe it. Say thanks. Say "and that's just one side of me."
Or even, "I was hoping you would like me in this". I bet you get a "Oooh, baby do I ever." as he closes in for the big hug.
I also suggest re-reading Islander's post (#10) as he/she says much the same thing I am saying.