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[BenRaines]

How about he gets his little tubes tied. Problem solved.

Ben Raines

[Alana]

A ob/gyn in the clinic I go to had an IUD back in the day and is now infertile because of it, but she is a huge supporter of them now. I think that shows how much they've changed as far as safety goes.

The main reason I don't like them is because if I decide I don't want it anymore, I need to physically go and do something to get it out, as apposed to doing nothing with other forms, as in just stop taking a pill or shot or whatever the method may be.

[Jenamarie]

Originally Posted by BenRaines

How about he gets his little tubes tied. Problem solved.

Ben Raines

Amen to that. It always bugs me when men put the full weight of birth control on the shoulders of the woman in the relationship. There are very few reliable methods that don't do SOMETHING artificial to the woman's body (pills, shots, patches, IUD's etc.). And then if they fail the woman gets to go through the hormone-raising, body-shifting, extremely-uncomfortable rigors of pregnancy and delivery. If he's sure he doesn't want any more kids, and you've already jumped through enough hoops to try to make that possible, and none of them are working, it's time for HIM to take on the responsibility of HIS part of the choice to not have any more kids and see about getting the big V. If he balks at that, asking him why he insists on YOU doing something that he himself is so adamantly against.

Just my two cents.

(from she who has an IUD as a compromise with my DH: if at the end of 5 years we still don't have the "baby itch" he'll be getting the Big V)

[Gwen]

thank you for your replies. i guess i need to talk to hubby some more and just make a decision. if it's my lone responsibility then i guess it's my lone decision......

[RachelleDrew]

Just for the record, I have Mirena and love it. I got pregnant on Depo (so much for that...) So Mirena was
my only option left.

It didn't hurt to get it put in, and i did have spotting for almost three months afterwards. But once that stopped, no periods at all. My husband said that he could feel it sometimes, but it was rare and it wasn't
really painful or annoying.

So far I really like it! But some of my friends haven't been as lucky with IUD's.

[MorningStar]

Hi, Gwen. Well, I'll share this experience, but it's not a good one. Less than two years ago, my sister-in-law's IUD almost killed her. She ended up in severe pain that they originally thought was appendicitis, her stomach swelled up so bad it looked like she was pregnant, and when they opened her up, it took 12 liters of saline to clean her out. She came very, very close to death and doesn't remember conversations she had with any of us while she was in the hospital or soon after. Now she is having trouble with her heart - as if she is being shocked when she participates in her usual physical activities. It was been very hard on her.

Of course, there is risk with everything, but after what she went through, I could never recommend it to anyone. Good luck with your decision.

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[Jenamarie]

The Mirena IUD is a hormonal IUD that releases the same hormones as the pill to supress ovulation. There is no "baby murder" going on.

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[hordak]

My son is an IUD baby. The Copper didn't work for us.