Missionary Girlfriends

[Alcrolyie]

I also have a missionary boyfriend serving in the San Fernando Valley mission in California. Given he's not thousands of miles away, I still miss him from time to time. He writes to me every week telling me how his mission is going, the friends he makes, and how much he still cares for me. He even said he wants to marry me. I'm trying my best not to distract him from being a full missionary and serving to his full potential and capabilities, but when he says things like that, it makes he waiting all worth while.

To all those girls waiting for a missionary, I feel for you! But with a little faith and patience, it will be worth the wait.

[Jezebel2011]

Originally Posted by cjcampbell

Speaking of guidelines... Mission Presidents tell missionaries all the time that they will not meet their eternal companion in the mission field.

So, seriously: 38 years ago my mission president, Paul H. Dunn, told me that I would lose either my girlfriend or my hair while on my mission. He went off chuckling to himself. I really hate being bald, but we have been married for nearly 36 years now.

We have three couples in our Ward where the woman met the man whilst he was a missionary in our Ward!!

[cassiehartig]

My boyfriend is getting ready to leave for a mission in Africa mid April. It is hard knowing that you will be waiting for two years with no guarentee that it will work out. It makes it even harder when people try to discourage you and throw odds at you. It is comforting reading some other girls experiences on here and that they are far into the mission and still going strong. Shows me that it is possible and well worth the wait in the end.

[clumsy23]

Originally Posted by cassiehartig

My boyfriend is getting ready to leave for a mission in Africa mid April. It is hard knowing that you will be waiting for two years with no guarentee that it will work out. It makes it even harder when people try to discourage you and throw odds at you. It is comforting reading some other girls experiences on here and that they are far into the mission and still going strong. Shows me that it is possible and well worth the wait in the end.

My boyfriend left for his mission to Africa as well and has been at the MTC for a month now. We both know that although there is no guarantee in it working out when he finishes, it's nice to know that I am helping him in some way by supporting him in this huge part of his life. One of the biggest things that I like to keep in mind is that the relationship is between the two of you, not 2+ 584570345 other people who might tell you how to handle your relationship-not that I'm saying that seeking advice is a horrible idea, because then we wouldn't be in this forum! But, ultimately, it's up to the two of you.

I've known my boyfriend since I was five yrs old and have been steady for a little over 2 yrs now, but even still, I know there's a 50/50 chance of it not turning into a "happily ever after"-and I'm ok with that. Trust in the Lord that things will turn out as they should be, and that everything happens for a reason.

[Tiena_bug]

Girls I know how you guys all feel right now. My missionary has almost been gone for 11 months and everyone still trys to tell me not to wait or 2 years is a long time. Its hard when your family is telling you this but keep your heads up and remember why you are waiting. I know the 2 years will go by fast. Its almost been a year for me and its gone by so fast.

My missionary has been my best friend since I was 15 but we didn't start dating til just before I turned 18. I know it is hard and you never know if it will work out but even if it doesn't it will be worth it. You will have grown so much from this. I know I have already grown so much because of it.

[kamisham]

Okay so my missionary and I aren't "together" anymore, and i'm not really waiting for him but we still have feelings for each other. I was really afraid that this would distract him while hes gone. He is still in the MTC, but he leaves in a week. I got another letter from him today telling me all about what has been going on, but there was a paragraph explaining that he just needed to to say... and then he goes on to tell me how he misses me and why. Is that bad? Aren't missionaries not really supposed to write like that? Or is it just because he hasn't left yet? I wasn't too worried about it until my mom mentioned it. Are there actual rules? Or is it just a strong suggestion? Or is it simply nothing to worry about?

[jrlang1219]

I was just baptized on Friday, so I still don't know everything about the church. My boyfriend is expecting his mission call in the next few months, and I am so excited for him. I was just curious... is it frowned upon to become engaged before he leaves on his mission? Is it like... against any rules? Thanks!

[Vort]

It is not against any rules. You are grown-ups and can get engaged if you like. But I suggest that, in general, it is not wise to get engaged to a missionary right before he leaves. I would certainly counsel my own son or daughter against such a thing. I believe it also distracts the missionary, who will be constantly thinking about his fiancee and future wife back at home. And should you start dating or (gasp!) get engaged to someone else, it can be devastating for the missionary.

[skippy740]

Depends also on the maturity level of the missionary. I was "engaged" to a girl back home when I served. However, I was able to also focus on the work to be done. I didn't have bouts of "homesickness" when I served. Yes, I missed her, but I never let it stop the work that I was called to do.

Also, I left on my mission at the ripe old age of 21 and had spent time away from home. In the mission field, that can be everything.

If your boyfriend has never spent time away from home, or earned his own paycheck or other things that adults typically do... he may not yet be emotionally mature to handle being away from home AND "his girl" while trying to serve the Lord.

Just a different perspective.