Missionary Rules

cherisalorraine · #1 (**permalink**) 11-29-2007, 08:34 PM

In the branch that I attend there are so few people that one of the sisters hosts the missionaries at her house for them to teach me but tells me that they are really not allowed to be with us alone. I understand to a point but I would like to know why they can not be left alone with my two children her granddaughter me and her. four of the afore mentioned are young children and she is almost 65. They are not in any danger with us so why is it a problem? I also want to know things about where they eat. I was told that the branch is responsible for feeding them at least one meal a day. but how are the women supposed to feed them and another family just to have a baby sitter? We only have about 10 families to feed them and a few singles (either widowed or never married but beyond child bearing years)after I am baptized I would like to invite them to my home for meals to fulfil my obligation but I struggle to feed my own family and I could only probably feed them once a month but then I would be asking at least 2 more people also. I guess I am just going to keep talking in circles because I want to do things right when my time comes but I might just be putting to much thought into it.

avatar4321 · #2 (**permalink**) 11-30-2007, 05:28 AM

i have no doubt that they wouldnt be endanger from you. the thing is the Elders are young men. and even some of the best young men get tempted with inappropriate things. And while you might not be a danger for them, there are others who may be. Thats why the policy exists. to keep them from those circumstances.

LoudmouthMormon · #3 (**permalink**) 11-30-2007, 09:51 AM

The church understands the hormone and maturity levels of our young missionaries. Such policies are in place to help keep our young men from temptation, and focused on their missions.

Also, about once every two or three years, we read some heartbreaking story about evil done by a member of the church, perpetrated on an innocent person. That's once every 2-3 years too much, so such policies also protect us from the rare bad guy. Abusers come from all walks of life, all income brackets, all education levels, all races and ethnicities, and all religious backgrounds. But the vast majority of them are males, mostly between 16 and 35 years of age, and that's the age of our missionaries, so we make sure they work in pairs, are not alone with sisters, etc.

LM

emeliza · #4 (**permalink**) 11-30-2007, 11:25 AM

Since the missionaries can't come to my house without a male being present I have a few different ways I feed them. Sometimes I just drop off a meal at their home and they eat it there. Sometimes I ask a single male friend or another family in the Church to come over for dinner the same time. And sometimes I have my neighbors come over (not members) while the missionaries are there. All of these work well for us. Once I set up a couple of chairs in my doorway when they came by (they are allowed to stand in the doorway, but even that was pushing it. I have fed them outside at a picnic table in a park once as well when we couldn't find anyone, but it is now too cold for that type of deal.

The missionaries are not allowed to be alone with a female (single or married). Doesn't matter the age.

blackcat · #5 (**permalink**) 12-13-2007, 11:04 PM

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The missionaries are not allowed to be alone with a female (single or married). Doesn't matter the age.[/b]

We missionaries had a saying it goes a little something like this...Every member a missionary- Every member a mission President. It is true that individual missionaries can't go on splits with a opposite sex member and so forth. Sure one cannot hug the member of the opposite sex either. Yes there are rules but each mission is different. Some missions I have heard they won't allow you to read letters until Pday other missions you can watch videos. And on and on.

Hello, I would like to add something here I and a friend had dinner with the Elder missionaries and She is a single woman who feeds the missionaries on a regular basis there is no problem there! No other man was there with us besides the elders.

While I was serving my comp. and I had dinner at a single opposite sex home having dinner no problem either nothing happened in both cases.