How long does it take to fall in love with someone?

[Gatsby]

Originally Posted by desert_fox

It's different for everyone, and there are varying degrees of it. You can probably say that you "love" someone fairly early on, but it may only be a shadow of what is actually possible.

A romantic illusion, I know what you mean.

It's different for everybody indeed.

[Gatsby]

I don't I'll think ever fall in love with someone in a short period of time, less than a year.

Besides being a sin, how does having sex before marriage affect the love you have for someone? Anybody know???

[Elgama]

Originally Posted by Gatsby

I don't I'll ever fall in love with someone in a short period of time, less than a year.

Besides being a sin, how does having sex before marriage affect the love you have for someone? Anybody know???

OK I remember getting into trouble for this in an RS meeting but personally I believe that there is nothing better than knowing I have never cheated on my husband before or after we were married and he has never cheated on me. Its an extra special feeling knowing that you saved yourself and your partner saved themselves for you adds a depth to a relationship that if you have had sex with someone else before marriage you will never know. You can never get that back.

Not having sex with each other I believe allows you time to get to know each other on other levels which is important especially when illness, pregnancy and children hit.

-Charley

[Gatsby]

Originally Posted by Elgama

OK I remember getting into trouble for this in an RS meeting but personally I believe that there is nothing better than knowing I have never cheated on my husband before or after we were married and he has never cheated on me. Its an extra special feeling knowing that you saved yourself and your partner saved themselves for you adds a depth to a relationship that if you have had sex with someone else before marriage you will never know. You can never get that back.

Not having sex with each other I believe allows you time to get to know each other on other levels which is important especially when illness, pregnancy and children hit.

-Charley

Thank you.

[Elgama]

Originally Posted by Gatsby

Thank you.

its what I want to teach my kids I am very excited about the law of chastity not just from a religious point of view I think its practical throughout university I never had a pregnancy scare, never truly had my heartbroken etc I got more dates because I was relaxed around men because I knew where my boundaries where.

I will be teaching my kids no matter whether they stay with the church that the Law of Chastity is good for friendships, good for you and wonderful for your marriage.

-Charley

[Gatsby]

Originally Posted by Gatsby

Please, I must know. Ever since I was introduce to romance I've been pondering this question.

I don't believe in soul mates or love at first sight, that's just a bunch of non-sense. & don't say it takes a second or 5 minutes to fall in love, that's just unbelievable.

The reason I ask is because I think I've been in love once but I fell for the wrong gal. & I don't think as much as I want to that it was an illusion.

Anyhow, do the scriptures mention anything regarding this?

I've come to the conclusion that to love is in fact a choice and love grows with time and Romantic love is anything but unconditional. A crush might be a strong feeling but it's an illusion nonetheless.

Oh well....c'est la vie!

It is what it is.

[Gatsby]

Originally Posted by Elgama

its what I want to teach my kids I am very excited about the law of chastity not just from a religious point of view I think its practical throughout university I never had a pregnancy scare, never truly had my heartbroken etc I got more dates because I was relaxed around men because I knew where my boundaries where.

I will be teaching my kids no matter whether they stay with the church that the Law of Chastity is good for friendships, good for you and wonderful for your marriage.

-Charley

Good for you! I applaud you for it. In this modern world of "one night stands" and "friends with benefits" boundaries have been crossed. You don't know what's right from wrong.

[Heavenguard]

I met a guy, and I liked him pretty much right off the bat. We never had an official dating relationship, but we'd gotten very close and we both knew of each other's feelings about four months after we'd become friends. There came the time I knew I wanted to love him, which took even me by surprise, because I never thought I'd go for his "type".

Decided that it would be best to not go that route, though. Broke my heart, it did.

[Gatsby]

I hate when that happens. You meet someone you like a lot but know that it's best not to fall in love or pursue them.

[Nappaljarri]

//don't I'll think ever fall in love with someone in a short period of time, less than a year.

Besides being a sin, how does having sex before marriage affect the love you have for someone? Anybody know??? // Gatsby's question:

Gatsby, it is a sin to commit fornication. God sets us boundaries for good reason. If you break the law of chastity before (or after for that matter) marriage, then you are breaking the true law of nature and the circle of life. Breaking this law is not a showing of "true love" at all, like some would profess. It is actually showing the opposite, enmity toward God's law and apathy for the person you share the experinece with. Breaking this law stabs your spiritual heart and leaves you spiritually wounded for most of your life. This is why breaking the law of chastity is next in line next to murder in severity of sins. Yes it definately does affect love within a marriage relationship if one or both parties have shared this experience with others, it puts the relationship on shaky ground to begin, and from there it is a hard row to hoe to have a stable relationship and make a celestial marriage out of it. If one one (if one or two in the marriage relationship) has had this experience with someone other than each other before marriage, then you can obviously see consequences. But more subtley, if the only person they broke the law of chastity with before marriage was each other, they can lie to each other for the rest of their lives and ignore the sin that was made and cover it up with the fact that they are married now. So many make this mistake and suffer their whole lives and don't truely repent for spiritually wounding each other. This is the case with my brother and his wife right now, who are still not married in the temple after 2 years of marriage because he still hasn't worked out that fact. Just because a couple gets married doesn't mean they have repented of breaking the law of chastity, it only means they can keep having sex without breaking the law, but they still need to go through the process of repentance and asking each other for forgiveness. Long process, but achievable.