Girls asking guys out...

[gabelpa]

I shouldn't tell you this, because it breaks the most sacred rule of being a man, but...

each single, dateable man must have wihin his posession at least one whipped-cream pie to be thrown at a girl as a form of rejection, if he does not feel that a "No" would suffice.

[yenni]

Originally Posted by gabelpa

I shouldn't tell you this, because it breaks the most sacred rule of being a man, but...

each single, dateable man must have wihin his posession at least one whipped-cream pie to be thrown at a girl as a form of rejection, if he does not feel that a "No" would suffice.

I knew it all along!

[Elgama]

People often forget with the is it the Brigham Young quote? the one that talks about the man asking the woman out - he actually finishes the paragraph with it ought not to be but it is.

I have no issue asking men to dance or on a date (well except I am now married lol)

-Charley

[yenni]

Originally Posted by Elgama

People often forget with the is it the Brigham Young quote? the one that talks about the man asking the woman out - he actually finishes the paragraph with it ought not to be but it is.

I have no issue asking men to dance or on a date (well except I am now married lol)

-Charley

Not familiar with the quote myself, so anyone who knows of it, I'd like to read it!

[puf_the_majic_dragon]

Originally Posted by yenni

As a girl I have that same fear, guess it's something some people of both sexes need to get over or remain single forever The worst that can come from asking is a simple no, right? Or does it get worse than that?

Actually it can be MUCH worse.... they could say "yes"!

Actually the worst situation for me is when I ask a girl out on a date, and she reacts like I just proposed time and all eternity to her. She got this look on her face like I'd gotten down on one knee and had a ring and everything (and not knowing each other too well it wasn't a happy look).

Originally Posted by gabelpa

If a girl asked me out while I was single, I'd have been one happy guy. We guys have no idea what the ladies think of us, and some of us have a high fear of rejection. Being asked out means that,at least the girl to isn't going to shut us down at "Hi."

Being asked out also means that you're doing something right enough that girls are noticing you.

[yenni]

Originally Posted by puf_the_majic_dragon

Actually it can be MUCH worse.... they could say "yes"!

Actually the worst situation for me is when I ask a girl out on a date, and she reacts like I just proposed time and all eternity to her. She got this look on her face like I'd gotten down on one knee and had a ring and everything (and not knowing each other too well it wasn't a happy look).



Being asked out also means that you're doing something right enough that girls are noticing you.

And when you're not asked out it seems like you're doing something wrong. Spending 5 years in a singles branch in being asked out once it not a good track record

[FunkyTown]

Okay - I am all for women asking guys out, but there's a reason most don't:

Rejection. Most women have a far greater fear of rejection than guys. I don't know why it is, but it is. I've spoken to girls I know whom I have great respect for and heard stories like "I once asked a guy out and he said no. I just could never do it again after that."

Pah. If I'd stopped asking women out after the first time I was rejected, I would have lost all hope of dating at the age of 10. Go ahead, ask 'im out. He might get really uncomfortable and say no and you'll have five minutes of awkward conversation to try to show you're not awkward, but it'll happen. The first time, you'll probably feel devastated. But every guy goes through that. Thankfully, we go through it at a young age, so we develop emotional calluses long before women do.

[Moksha]

Yeah, women should ask guys out. The excuse that women are too frail and would probably get the vapors and swoon does not cut it anymore. They too are fully capable human beings.

[beefche]

I wouldn't have a problem asking out a guy, but I'm not likely to do so at first.

I have a friend who is setting me up with a guy now. I told her that I would be willing to go out with him--give him my info. I also told her that I think he should make the first move.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I just think that men should do the majority of the asking. Not that women shouldn't do it.

As I've wondered why I feel this way, I think it's because as a woman, I want to feel wooed. I want a man to want to make that move on his own. It is related to those horrible signs that women give that men don't get. Such as "Does this dress make me look fat?" Men, realize she isn't asking if the dress makes her look fat--she's asking if you still find her attractive.

We, women, need to be better about expressing our desires. If you want to know if your man wants you, then ask him. But, men need to understand women's need to feel attractive and wanted and do things to show that to their woman.

[yenni]

Originally Posted by beefche

I wouldn't have a problem asking out a guy, but I'm not likely to do so at first.

I have a friend who is setting me up with a guy now. I told her that I would be willing to go out with him--give him my info. I also told her that I think he should make the first move.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I just think that men should do the majority of the asking. Not that women shouldn't do it.

As I've wondered why I feel this way, I think it's because as a woman, I want to feel wooed. I want a man to want to make that move on his own. It is related to those horrible signs that women give that men don't get. Such as "Does this dress make me look fat?" Men, realize she isn't asking if the dress makes her look fat--she's asking if you still find her attractive.

We, women, need to be better about expressing our desires. If you want to know if your man wants you, then ask him. But, men need to understand women's need to feel attractive and wanted and do things to show that to their woman.

This is pretty much how I feel on the subject.