Girls asking guys out...

[yenni]

Just wondering how many of you are for girls asking the men out? It's not so much that I wouldn't ask a guy out, it's just that almost every week in church men are constantly encouraged to be the ones to ask us ladies out. And as long as I've been in the church (13 years) that's all I've ever heard. The men in my branch rarely seem to do so however. I know a woman can, but for some reason the RS pres. counsels us to not be the ones to ask.

Anywho, I would really like to have everyone's take on this. Guys would you prefer it if we did the asking? To those already married, who did the asking in the relationship?

[WakkoWarner]

I have no problem with a girl asking guys out. But, alas, it never happens for me.... :-(

[Jenamarie]

I asked my DH out on our first date. WHY would your RS president recommend that women not do the asking? That just seems odd. I mean, it just seems like more of a cultural thing than a gospel thing, ya know?

[yenni]

Originally Posted by Jenamarie

I asked my DH out on our first date. WHY would your RS president recommend that women not do the asking? That just seems odd. I mean, it just seems like more of a cultural thing than a gospel thing, ya know?

I agree that it is a cultural thing though it does seem to be more pressed in the church than out. I don't know why RS pres would tell us that. She seems to think relationships won't work out in the long run if girls ask guys.

[GoodnessGracious]

i think it's perfectly fine for the Gal to do the asking ! Why not !

[puf_the_majic_dragon]

I'd be very flattered (and VERY surprised) if a girl asked me out, and even if I wasn't interested in her romantically I'd probably say yes - if for no other reason than that whole golden rule thing. I see no problem with re-evaluating gender roles in society. Many of the "customs" we cling to are almost backwards compared to what we know understand of biology and psychology regarding the differences between genders. I do have one caveat, however: A man is still allowed to be a gentleman - holding open doors and taking the lady's coat or offering her his etc. That will never go out of style

As for why there seems to be this "guys should do the asking" pressure in the church, it's probably because back in the "good" ol' days it was horribly taboo for a woman to ask the man out and conservatives (which make up a huge majority of church members) tend to cling to those old fashioned ideals. - And I mean conservative in its most catholic sense, not just the political definition -

[yenni]

Originally Posted by puf_the_majic_dragon

I do have one caveat, however: A man is still allowed to be a gentleman - holding open doors and taking the lady's coat or offering her his etc. That will never go out of style

It's nice to kno some who still like to be gentlemen.

I say go for it!!!! Heck i asked my husband to marry me.. smile. smile .smile .happy. happy .happy

[gabelpa]

If a girl asked me out while I was single, I'd have been one happy guy. We guys have no idea what the ladies think of us, and some of us have a high fear of rejection. Being asked out means that,at least the girl to isn't going to shut us down at "Hi."

[yenni]

Originally Posted by gabelpa

If a girl asked me out while I was single, I'd have been one happy guy. We guys have no idea what the ladies think of us, and some of us have a high fear of rejection. Being asked out means that,at least the girl to isn't going to shut us down at "Hi."

As a girl I have that same fear, guess it's something some people of both sexes need to get over or remain single forever The worst that can come from asking is a simple no, right? Or does it get worse than that?