question for single guys...

pepperann27 · #1 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 10:45 PM

Would you date a girl who has health problems? I am curious because I have health problems and I am wondering if thats why I haven't had a boyfriend or haven't gone on many dates.

Jbs2763 · #2 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 10:51 PM

it really depends on the girl, and if i get along with her and like her and such. it wouldn't prevent me from dating a girl to know she had health problems, i am one to take time to get to know someone before i date them tho....

RachelleDrew · #3 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 11:05 PM

There are some health problems that would make it difficult for some men to approach a girl yes.

I don't think seasonal allergies are going to be a cause for a guy to run away when he sees you, but certain medical issues do need certain delicacy that some young men just don't have the capability to emotionally handle. It's nothing personal, but I can imagine it might be hard for a guy to say, approach a girl in a wheelchair. Not because there is anything wrong about the girl, but because he may not know how to talk to her without appearing insensitive.

It really depends on what the issue, and the guy at hand.

Maxel · #4 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 11:14 PM

It really depends on the issue, pepperann27. Some medical problems are mistaken for other things (such as obesity due to diabetes mistaken for a woman not taking care of her body), sometimes they do provide a barrier to an immature man or a man of a certain type.

I agree with RachelleDrew: it depends on the medical issue, and the guy in question. However... boys will be boys. I apologize for my gender's occasional (read: frequent) moronic escapades.

pepperann27 · #5 (**permalink**) 03-10-2009, 11:36 PM

I have digestive problems, I have had colonic inertia, rectal inertia, and now I have small bowel inertia and I also have a ileostomy, I too have chronic pain.

Do you think that could scare guys off? it is sad if it would because I am a nice person.

L_and_P21 · #6 (**permalink**) 03-11-2009, 12:39 AM

best thing to do is to just be yourself. guys, if they arent shallow, will understand and get past it. just remember, your Heavenly Father loves you and has a plan for you. we just need to not forget that some things are in the Lords time.

Godless · #7 (**permalink**) 03-11-2009, 01:08 AM

So long as the health problems aren't mental, I'm okay with it. I've dated girls with mental/emotional disorders before, and it's not fun.

WakkoWarner · #8 (**permalink**) 03-11-2009, 06:03 PM

I met a girl online & we are eager to meet each other. She is going through a major health trial right now (very serious), but it is not stopping me from wanting to date her. We have become very close & I hope to become closer to her. Don't worry about it too much - just live your life the best you can & something good will come of it. If we dwell too much on the negative, others sometimes pick up on that. I used to do that, but I have made some changes in my life & the way I feel now is amazing. Just concentrate on the good things in your life & you will be amazed at how different things will be.

Moksha · #9 (**permalink**) 03-12-2009, 01:09 AM

Pepperann, you many wish to keep your eye out for some guy who works in nursing. Nurses are very caring and helpful.

Gargantuan · #10 (**permalink**) 06-04-2009, 12:45 AM

Hello pepperann27, It’ always a personal matter as another person gets involved with dating. He or she should always date for the right reasons. The right reasons should always be unselfish.

I think I know how you feel. It's a lonely road to feel rejected due to a physical disability. I remember what President Monson said once in a talk he gave at a General Conference. In his talk he was talking to a boy named "Tommy" about death, because I think one of Tommy's pets had died. He said that there would be other worlds in which to climb mountains, see blue skies, breath fresh air, hear the birds sing, and walk with a loved one. The purpose of this life is to test your faith and obedience. Regardless of the hardship of carrying a personal cross of affliction, it can be done. When you feel depressed and lonely, get your mind immediately on those things that are positive and uplifting. At first, this is hard to do, but after you keep trying and asking for God's help it will work out right.

So, I say to you pepperann27, it may matter a lot to you now what others see in you. If men don't see your finer qualities, then that is their problem. Your challenge is to always show the kindness you have inside. As you continue to do this day after day, you will find that you have a great treasure inside that few possess. This is your gift from God and it will continue to grow within as you endure. It will never be lost and there will come a time when the afflictions you bear now will become great blessings to those who know you. I hope this has been of some help with your question.