Marriage

[Hemidakota]

Originally Posted by blusun7

I just want to make the right choice and im struggling. I dont have any family up here but my dad but my dad just says trust in the spirit or in the lord but he does say he is not the best person for advice cause he has been divorced. I dont want to be divorced. the perosn i marry is the person i marry. That is my goal and what i will work towards.

help

I concur with your father's wisdom....

[Hemidakota]

Originally Posted by blusun7

I just want to make the right choice and im struggling. I dont have any family up here but my dad but my dad just says trust in the spirit or in the lord but he does say he is not the best person for advice cause he has been divorced. I dont want to be divorced. the perosn i marry is the person i marry. That is my goal and what i will work towards.

help

I concur with your father's wisdom....divorse only comes when either one has transgressed enough and refuses to repent, or a partner refuses to work things out.

[Ragnar]

Originally Posted by blusun7

I have prayed but i feel like my emotions are getting involved

Read

Doctrine and Covenants 9:8

Trust me, if you get this, it's not your emotions! Your emotions can't make your chest burn within you!

[blusun7]

i really appreciate your input. I think and pray and i want to marry her but then my mind thinks what will people think of you and your family and i pull back. Is this normal? I feel like i would let every down but I mean i dont think god would do that. Love is love but what if my love would get her in the church but what if wont?
Maybe i just need to make a decision. I do love her. I want to be with her. I think the only reason i havent married her is because im afraid of how my family will percieve me. I didnt go on a mission and marrying outside the church would put more on me. You know?

[Ragnar]

Originally Posted by blusun7

Love is love but what if my love would get her in the church but what if wont?

marrying outside the church would put more on me.

Oh..I didn't know she wasn't a member of the church!!

I would try to get her in to the church before even thinking of saying yes to 'Will you merry me?' After all, we're commanded to be married in the temple for ever, and not 'until death do you depart.' Then there's....

I will go and do the things which the Lord hath commanded, for I know that the Lord giveth no commandments unto the children of men, save he shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he commandeth them.” (1 Ne. 3:7)

So if she's the one the Lord wants you to merry, he'll prepare a way to get her in to the church, AND you'll get the bosom feeling to let you know she's the one you should merry.

If you have a temple recommend, go to the temple to the Celestial room and pray. You can even actually ask to get either the bosom feeling or stupor of thought.