Is there something wrong with me?

[BrioCyrain]

Hello, I want some LDS opinion on this. So I am like...20 and if I remember correctly the prefered minimal LDS dating age was what...16? Though in-between these 4 years I have yet to land a single date with a girl, LDS or non-LDS either way.

I know many people told me "the time will come" but I don't want to like some old gramps person by the time that happens. I mean all the LDS friends I have had since then had either gotten married or have been on numerous dates. I just want to know why I've been avoided or just been "collecting dust" these 4 years.

I've tried to make contact with LDS girls that I liked and when I told them that I liked them even though we spent time around the same friends and stuff they just blew me off and thought I was a weirdo. I don't see what so weird about me, I mean I am a bit shy but I don't see how that makes me weird.

Some people just think I just been running into fickle girls but I am a bit surprised since all the girls I've tried to get them to notice me seem to go under this "fickle" category.

I just wish I could have hope for the better.

[Jbs2763]

Dude, I'm 30...I haven't had much luck in the dating world, just a few girls I could call my chick over the last decade and a half, none of them stuck... I think I have issues, and some of my friends on this board would whole heartedly agree...

but everyone has issues.. you got plenty of time, don't rush it

[Wingnut]

Originally Posted by Jbs2763

Dude, I'm 30...I haven't had much luck in the dating world, just a few girls I could call my chick over the last decade and a half, none of them stuck...

Perhaps if you didn't refer to them as your chick, they might stick around.

[BenRaines]

I never waited around for a date. I find that most girls/women prefer to be asked out and do not like being called chicks.

Ben Raines

[Loudmouth_Mormon]

I didn't date until my mid-20's. And I was married within a year of starting. I like to tell people that I was just waiting for girls around me to mature to the point where there was a point to dating. But in reality, I was just socially awkward and a late bloomer and terrified of trying to date and failing.

LM
(13th year of marriage, 2 kids)

[namastic4488]

I love that you are honest even when it comes to you being socially awkward . With that said I have a job for you in educating me about your religon. I am doing a research essay on your religon and have a few questions but no one to answer them for me. It has to be some what like an interview and maybe I could give you my email or if there is some way on here we could do it that way as well. My questions are to bias but some are tough..... but lets face it when its relgion its a "big," deal. Please let me know if you are up to the challenge.
God Bless,
Mama moni

[beefche]

Originally Posted by BrioCyrain

I've tried to make contact with LDS girls that I liked and when I told them that I liked them even though we spent time around the same friends and stuff they just blew me off and thought I was a weirdo. I don't see what so weird about me, I mean I am a bit shy but I don't see how that makes me weird.

There's a problem. Anyone would feel uncomfortable or intimidated by someone coming up to them and telling them they liked them.

When you see girls that you'd like to get to know, find a private time (either in person or on the phone) to ask them on a date. Already have an activity in mind. A sample conversation: "Sally, I have tickets to the basketball game on Saturday. I thought it would be fun for you to go with me. Would you like to go?"

Or if you are in conversation with a girl and think you'd like to go out with her, you could say, "You are so funny! I'd love to get to know you better. How about dinner on Friday night?"

You need to be asking girls out. I understand that you're shy, but there is a level of shyness you just have to shake off in order to get to know someone. So, practice in front of a mirror or even try it out on a trusted friend/relative. If a girl turns you down, then be aware of what she is saying. If a girl isn't interested, she will either tell you upfront that she's not interested or she's seeing someone else. Most likely, she going to find excuses "Umm, I'm busy on Saturday." Then simply respond, "Ok, what about the following Saturday?" If she comes up with another excuse, then she's not interested.

Good luck!

[pam]

Originally Posted by namastic4488

I love that you are honest even when it comes to you being socially awkward . With that said I have a job for you in educating me about your religon. I am doing a research essay on your religon and have a few questions but no one to answer them for me. It has to be some what like an interview and maybe I could give you my email or if there is some way on here we could do it that way as well. My questions are to bias but some are tough..... but lets face it when its relgion its a "big," deal. Please let me know if you are up to the challenge.
God Bless,
Mama moni

No offense but what does this have to do with the OP? This person is being honest about his dating situation and hurting from it from what it sounds like...and you want to ask him questions for a research paper?

[Carl62]

BrioCyrain, if you want women coming after you from all four directions, learn to play guitar or the drums and get into a band!! Seriously! One characteristic that women love about guys in bands is not only the music, but the confidence that they seem to exuberate when they're on stage. Take it from somebody who's played in bands for almost 30 years in that it has NEVER hurt me when it came to women. You'll also gain confidence in yourself in accomplishing something by learning a musical instrument which will convey in the success of your personal life off the stage as well. Seriously, I've seen the most scrawny, ugliest, unkempt guys attract some of the hottest looking women merely because they played in bands. A good friend of mine who was good friends with Gene Simmons of Kiss said that when he was in college with him when he was just non-musician, future school teacher Gene Klein, he couldn't get a date to save his life!! Give it some serious thought. It honestly does work. If you do, I'll bet you'll be posting next year at this time when you're in your band about the problems you're having with juggling all the women who won't leave you alone. Good luck.

[tubaloth]

If you ask them, they well come.