So Shy - Page 2

JoshDwellington · #11 (**permalink**) 07-20-2009, 07:45 AM

Johnnylingo, still didn't say if you were a Male or a Female !

anyways, I was pretty shy when I was young and I just socialized and made a lot of friends at :
_ volunteering centers
_ dog shelters
_ church activities
_ sports

I just smile like an idiot all the time and talk talk talk, doesn't matter what or with whom, old ladies, kids, anyone anywhere
Just smile and talk talk talk, on the bus, when I walk my dog, it takes some time when you start, but you'll be surprised you actually meet some nice people !

aclaire11 · #12 (**permalink**) 07-21-2009, 12:30 PM

I am pretty shy, too, but I'm working on being more outgoing. I realized that I feel nervous around people I don't know very well, and I tend to hang out with first few people I meet and actually have conversations with. Now when I am in a new school/class/ward/etc, I introduce myself to as many people as possible, and try to have at least a short conversation with them. That helps me feel more relaxed around everyone. And I definitely agree with the poster that said just try and be friends instead of chasing after "crushes."

EDIT: Also, smile a lot! Not only does it make you look more friendly, it actually makes you feel happier!

FairChild · #13 (**permalink**) 07-21-2009, 08:23 PM

I was reading an article about shyness and it said something I found interesting. It said if you were shy, you were also a person that was very self focused. It said one of the best remedies for shyness was to focus outside of yourself.

johnnylingo · #14 (**permalink**) 07-21-2009, 10:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by freckleface

It's okay to be shy.

Thanks! For a moment I was feeling a little defective.

(I'm a woman, even though my username is johnnylingo)

StallionMcBeastly · #15 (**permalink**) 07-26-2009, 09:10 PM

Shyness can be attractive in a woman.

Anyways, work on showing and developing your personality. Be happy and smile - ask people how they're doing. You'll get a positive response back.

melissa23 · #16 (**permalink**) 08-16-2009, 11:47 PM

I'm shy too.. lol. I'm not quite sure how to get over that. But I think we just need to learn how to, and push ourselves. I'm trying to work on it.. my goal this year at school is to try and meet more people and to not always hang out with the same people all the time.. that's what it tend to do haha. But I def know how you feel. But I also don't think its bad.. there's just times when if your being TOO shy you need to find a way to get over it.

Arkwelder · #17 (**permalink**) 09-07-2009, 02:45 AM

It usually comes down to self-image. If you value what you have to offer others, then chances are you will come out of your shell. You are not just trying to attract any guy, but the right guy. Seriously, what makes you cool? The right guy will think it's cool, too. If you don't think there is anything cool about you, then that may be your problem right there.

Arkwelder · #18 (**permalink**) 09-07-2009, 04:18 AM

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pam · #19 (**permalink**) 09-07-2009, 08:39 AM

I hope you got Zion's permission.

TheJosmo · #20 (**permalink**) 10-20-2009, 05:20 PM

As a former chronically shy person, I found a good start was to try smiling at people, wherever I went, holding open doors, and nonverbal things like that. I had to practice in the mirror to develop those facial muscles, but once I became more approachable, having people approach me made me feel more confident and my shyness just melted away over time! =)