Dating in the youth

Thetruechurch · #1 (**permalink**) 10-19-2009, 03:48 PM

I hope this is not a touchy or inapropriate topic but,

Aside from the obvious rules of chasity which I don't have an issue with, are there any specific guidelines, restrictions or rules in relation to dating amongst the church youth?

I'm 16 and have been in mens for quite a while now and attended a few stake youth events. I've seen quite a few girls there who come across as friendly and attractive, one who I have quite a crush on. I whilst I am not rushing into to a relationship yet, something very strong inside tells me, that my future spouse will likely be a member of the church. I

Although I said I'm not rushing into any relationship, and will consider my partner carefully. I do feel largely unsure over the subject, and how it may reflect to church policies and other members.

Any advice would be helpful

beefche · #2 (**permalink**) 10-19-2009, 04:03 PM

For the Strength of Youth pamphlet gives guidelines on dating.

Here's what they say about dating:

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Do not date until you are at least 16 years old. Dating before then can lead to immorality, limit the number of other young people you meet, and deprive you of experiences that will help you choose an eternal partner.

When you begin dating, go in groups or on double dates. Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person. Make sure your parents meet those you date. You may want to invite your dates to activities with your family. Plan dating activities that are positive and inexpensive and that will help you get to know each other. Do things that will help you and your companions maintain your self-respect and remain close to the Spirit of the Lord.

Thetruechurch · #3 (**permalink**) 10-19-2009, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by beefche

For the Strength of Youth pamphlet gives guidelines on dating.

Here's what they say about dating:

I actually don't have one of those. I'll make sure to ask my ward bishop for one on sunday.

beefche · #4 (**permalink**) 10-19-2009, 04:11 PM

You can look at online at lds.org. Linky here.

Thetruechurch · #5 (**permalink**) 10-19-2009, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by beefche

You can look at online at lds.org. Linky here.

thanks.

Just_A_Guy · #6 (**permalink**) 10-20-2009, 05:27 PM

I would add, keep the same standard of integrity as you date that you would in other aspects of your lives.

A tremendous amount of the drama (mind games, duplicity, manipulation, outright lying or just general dumbness) associated with teenaged relationships--even LDS ones--could be avoided by adhering to some basic standards of behavior that the Church reinforces time and time again.

It's amazing how many otherwise decent and honorable LDS teens become complete chuckleheads when dealing with the opposite sex.