Parents & Dating

[Angel_Luv]

[FONT=Cou[SIZE=7][COLOR=purple]rier]Okay here's my problem an d i was wondering if some people could help me out on this.My name is Ellie and I live in New Zealand I'm only 15 but in July will be turning 16.I dont think it's very bad for me to have a boyfriend right now i mean whats another three measly months i might as well start now.I know its not really the best choice to make but yeah.My point is I like this guy quite alot I've liked him since last september and my parents know.I would be happy to go to the movies with him but my father is really over pretective of me.I mean REALLY over protective and me having only brothers(one older and one younger) doesn't really help my situation now either.The real bummer is that i dont have a say in it. My older brother has had about 6 girlfriends and he's only a year older then me,even my little brother and i'm nearly two years older then him.My dad has been devorced from my mum and he is now remarried to a lovely lady with a daughter(only child) now she gets to go out with her boyfriend when ever she wants which i think bites.......rrrrr my life is so not going for at the moment.If anyone can help me out with this particular subject of has any problems of their own please reply

[Luzia]

Originally posted by Angel_Luv@Apr 22 2004, 09:09 PM
I know its not really the best choice to make but yeah.

If you know it`s not really the best choice, why force it into being the best choice?
You know it`s wrong, don`t do it because others do it, do it when you are sure it`s the right thing, that way `you wont end up hurt or things will be better.

[Drummer_Jay]

I know how you feel. My mom doesnt want me to stick to just one person, I see why now. Trust me from expirence dont go out on 1 on 1 dates go in groups and stuff and see if your dad dosent lighten up. By the way 3 mesely months makes all the difference, alot can happen.

[cedar]

Hear me now and listen to me later. He only wants you for one reason.

[Setheus]

ask yourself this........Why is it SO important to you? Do you seek freedom or this guy? Why is it such a big deal?

[Drummer_Jay]

dude cedars got a point, middle school boys have like a 1 track mind when it comes to girls

[Drummer_Jay]

dude i noticed something this little face dude right over here
<------- that guy hes got like some teeth problems, look at him im going to have to change that

[DisRuptive1]

He's in middle school. That's why he has that grin. ;D

[AFDaw]

Originally posted by Drummer_Jay@Apr 28 2004, 09:31 PM
dude cedars got a point, middle school boys have like a 1 track mind when it comes to girls

It's not just middle school guys

I'm 26, was born into the church, I too have 2 brothers, both younger and my father is also way over protective. First, he's over protective because he loves you. Don't ever forget that. He's also over protective because he's been one of those boys that you'll be dating. He's been 16, he knows what boys think about.

Now, I realize that I don't have the most popular beliefs when it comes to dating. I also realize that when you're 16, you don't believe a 26 yr old knows what they're talking about. But trust me, if you only date 1 guy, you will regret it. There's no need to get serious while you're so young. Dating is all about finding out who you're going to marry, and if you're not ready to get married now, then why date so seriously now? Date a lot of guys, go out on a lot of dates. Every failed relationship taught me something I either wanted in a future husband, or what I didn't want in a future husband.

I've known several people (members and non-members) who were serious with 1 person throughout high school, and they all say they regret it. For different reasons too. Some regret spending their time with just 1 person when they could have been with more. If you and that other person get in an argument, break up, whatever, then it effects your school work and things. You're too young to be going through those heart breaks. That's for college...when you and your girlfriends can order in pizza and trash talk guys all night while watching sappy love movies

Best of luck though. You're young (I know you probably get tired of hearing that, I did) but you have a LONG time to date. If it's only 3 mos and 3 mos don't matter, then you shouldn't have a hard time waiting until your 16, because after all, it's ONLY 3 mos.

[Franken]

Originally posted by Drummer_Jay@Apr 28 2004, 09:31 PM
dude cedars got a point, middle school boys have like a 1 track mind when it comes to girls

Hey, not all guys have a one track mind like that. It is true that most of them are all thinking about that though, unfourtunately. Some of my closest most respectable friends I've come to find out were like that. I couldn't believe it when I heard it, but at the same time, I didn't doubt it. I can't stand what's become of them, and I personally am trying my best to avoid becoming like them. It is true that there are expections out there though, it's just that you'll never know who they are.

Second of all, dating at all before you are 16 even if it's in groups is just a bad idea all together. Then when you are sixteen, one on one is just troublesome and can lead to some bad situations. I've seen this happen to my friends before, just don't do it and you'll be fine. Also, don't fight your dad on it to the bitter end, it'd make his life a whole heck of a lot easier if you didn't.

Anyways, all you guys are giving us teenage guys a bad image! (Ok, so I don't blame you all that much, but still!) Cut us some slack won'tcha?