Trouble With Friends

LADodger2112 · #1 (**permalink**) 06-02-2004, 09:49 PM

Alright, well, I have this friend named John Mark. He's not the greatest behaving 13 year old ever, and my dad hates him. I don't know who to listen to. Should I stick with my friend or listen to my dad? One time we were climbing on the roof of the school across the street and a teacher came out and saw and got us in trouble. (It was me, John mark, Sean, and Neal) My dad got mad and my mom didn't care. WHAT DO I DO?!?!? :blink:

Pinkfloyd668 · #2 (**permalink**) 06-02-2004, 10:25 PM

DIMPLES IS A FRUIT

DECIDE YOURSELF

Jenda · #3 (**permalink**) 06-02-2004, 10:30 PM

I would go with listening to your dad.

I know at 13 years old that dad is not cool (or rad, or whatever), but you don't know what is best for you in the long run and he does.

Luzia · #4 (**permalink**) 06-04-2004, 10:33 AM

Listen to your dad young man!

LADodger2112 · #5 (**permalink**) 06-04-2004, 11:50 AM

Hey! Don't talk to me like that young man/lady! I'm not your son!

Maureen · #6 (**permalink**) 06-04-2004, 02:19 PM

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Originally posted by LADodger2112@Jun 2 2004, 07:49 PM
Alright, well, I have this friend named John Mark. He's not the greatest behaving 13 year old ever, and my dad hates him. I don't know who to listen to. Should I stick with my friend or listen to my dad?....

Hey LADodger you are the same age as my son. He also has a 13 year old friend who has some behavioural problems - I think that's part of being 13.

As for advice - You can still be John's friend but keep in mind that your Dad cares and worries about you and is hoping that John does not lead you down the wrong "garden path" or "school rooftop". Your Dad is there to help you get through those teen years without too much damage occuring, better to be safe than sorry.

If you know that though John may behave badly sometimes, but that you will not let him influence you in a way that could harm you, then let your Dad know he has nothing to worry about. And in the end you may be a good influence in John's life.

M.

LADodger2112 · #7 (**permalink**) 06-04-2004, 07:51 PM

Wow. Thanks 4 the advice, thats some of the best I've ever gotten! Thank you so much!

Setheus · #8 (**permalink**) 06-04-2004, 10:37 PM

I think you need to decide if you are going to be a leader or a follower.
Why do you have to worry about choosing between your friend and your father?
Take the advice and example that you recieve from your dad and act on it!
Use it to lead your friend down a better way. Take control of your situation.
Or, you can just be a follower and let your friend decide your actions for you and see just where that gets you in life. (which is nowhere good).

LADodger2112 · #9 (**permalink**) 06-07-2004, 12:48 AM

Thanks. I think that's opened up some new doors for me in life.

Lindy · #10 (**permalink**) 06-07-2004, 01:22 AM

Maureen and Setheus have some real good advice there LADodger...as the mother of older children (2 of them boys) ....I see the wisdom in what they had to say. I had a son who made lots of bad choices as a teen... and as an adult, those choices are still affecting his life. Making good choices, following good advice, listening to your dad.....will help you in your adult years. Right now...just be a kid, make and keep friends, learn and have fun in the process.... You can do it all AND make right choices.