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How To Change Limiting Beliefs
 
By Kevin Sinclair
 
The first step to changing limiting beliefs is actually to recognize that you have them. This can be very hard 
for people who have had a genuinely difficult life and have experienced adversities not of their own making. 
The idea that they are blocking their own good because of limiting beliefs can seem like another slap in the face. 
However, acknowledging the power of limiting beliefs to affect one's life should not be taken as a criticism. 
If you are a human being, then you will have some limiting beliefs. Different limiting beliefs in their various 
combinations will affect everyone differently, but no one is immune. When we realize this, we don't feel quite 
so lonely or attacked.
 
Limiting beliefs are beliefs that cause us to act and react in ways which limit our potential. However, unless
people have done some inner work, they are often unable to identify their limiting beliefs if asked. This is 
because an unquestioned belief is considered a truth and not a belief at all. How then, can we shine a light 
on our limiting beliefs in such a way that we are willing to stand still and examine them?
 
The first step is to spend some time listening to your self talk. Don't judge your thoughts and don't try to change
them; just observe them and listen for repetitions and patterns. Write down the things you say to yourself often.
Don't think about them, just record them. There's no stress. Do this for a week and then go through your notes. 
This can be a very uncomfortable experience as most of us do not pay much conscious attention to our inner dialog.
 
The second step follows on from the first. Carefully examine your notes and highlight often repeated statements 
you make to yourself. You may be surprised how negatively you speak to yourself. Write these statements on a 
separate piece of paper leaving a few lines blank under each one. Write down the area or areas of your life each 
statement refers to.
 
The third and final step to discovering your limiting beliefs is to evaluate how these areas of your life are working. 
If you regularly repeat a statement to yourself that relates to an area of your life that is stressful, disappointing or 
simply not working on some level, there is a very good chance that your self talk reflects a limiting belief which is 
blocking your success in that area.
 
Limiting beliefs can have devastating effects on our lives such as creating poverty, preventing us from getting the 
job we want, keeping us lonely or keeping us overweight. They usually reflect the profoundly deep "I can'ts" of life. 
Whenever you really feel that you just can't do something, have something or be something, you are probably 
being influenced by a limiting belief.
 
Limiting beliefs are like vampires; they suck the life out of you. But also like vampires, they cannot exist in the 
light of day. Limiting beliefs can only exist because they hide in the dark recesses of the mind, unexamined. 
Once they are brought to light, they can be seen for what they are and they must die.
 
Once you have identified a limiting belief and acknowledged its effects on your life, you can change it. 
To change a limiting belief, it is most effective to work backwards from your desired result. 
What is holding you back from achieving the outcome you want? What do you think other people believe 
about themselves that allows them to have it? What do you think you need to believe about yourself in 
order to get the results you want? Once you have worked out one or more positive beliefs that will support you, 
you need to program them into your belief systems.
 
The first step to reprogramming your mind is to recognize that your limiting belief is a lie and the new belief is the truth. 
You must answer the lie with the truth. Whenever you repeat to yourself a negative statement supporting the old belief,
immediately answer it with the truth. Speak out loud if you have to (hopefully no one will be around) and say 
"No, that is not true," and then state the new belief. To give the new belief power, it is important to look for reasons 
why it is true. As your mind finds more and more reasons why the new belief is true, it will gain precedence and the 
limiting belief will have no power.
 
If you need additional help to defeat limiting beliefs, a biofeedback therapy such as kinesiology can be useful. 
If you know the belief you need to overcome and the belief you need to program, kinesiology and similar therapies 
can short cut the process. It is particularly useful in situations where the limiting belief has occurred as a result of 
trauma or strong emotion and has become locked in at a physical level, not just mentally. Biofeedback therapies 
use muscle testing to measure the body's response to different beliefs and can help a person release damaging 
beliefs and set positive new ones.
 
Limiting beliefs are a part of the human condition. However, we do not have to hold onto them. Changing a single 
belief can have a dramatic impact on our whole lives. If we seek to discover and change all our limiting beliefs, 
each of us can totally shift our experience of life and become the person we were born to be. This is a gift no 
one can give us, but ourselves.

A woman was waiting at the airport one night,
With several long hours before her flight.
She hunted for a book in the airport shop,
Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.

She was engrossed in her book, but happened to see,
That the man beside her, as bold as could be,
Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag between,
Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene

She read, munched cookies, and watched the clock,
As the gustly "cookie thief" diminished her stock
She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,
Thinking, "If I wasn't so nice, I'd blacken his eye!"

With each cookie she took, he took one too.
When only one was left, she wondered what he'd do.
with a smile on his face and a nervous laugh,
He took the last cookie and broke it in half.

He offered her half, and he ate the other.
She snatched it from him and thought, "Oh brother,
This guy has some nerve, and he's also so rude,
Why, he didn't even show any gratitude!"

She had never known when she had been so galled,
And sighed with relief when her flight was called.
She gathered her belongings and headed for the gate,
Refusing to look at the "thieving ingrate".

She boarded the plane and sank in her seat,
Then sought her book, which was almost complete.
As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise.
There were her bag of cookies in front of her eyes!

"If mine are here," she moaned with despair.
"Then the others were his and he tried to share!"
Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,
That she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief!!!!

"IT'S NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU . . .
             ;            &n bsp;  IT'S WHAT YOU DO WITH IT."

          A POEM

          There once was an oyster
          Whose story I tell,
          Who found that some sand
          Had got into his shell.

          It was only a grain,
          But it gave him great pain.
          For oysters have feelings
          Although they're so plain.

          Now, did he berate
          The harsh workings of fate
          That had brought him
          To such a deplorable state?

          Did he curse at the government,
          Cry for election,
          And claim that the sea should
          Have given him protection?

          "No," he said to himself
          As he lay on a shell,
          Since I cannot remove it,
          I shall try to improve it.

          Now the years have rolled around,
          As the years always do,
          And he came to his ultimate
          Destiny . . . stew.

          And the small grain of sand
          That had bothered him so
          Was a beautiful pearl
          All richly aglow.

          Now the tale has a moral,
          For isn't it grand
          What an oyster can do
          With a morsel of sand?

          What couldn't we do
          If we'd only begin
          With some of the things
          That get under our skin.