03/15/2008 20:03:34

Thinking of you and your children and sending a prayer up.

03/14/2008 19:15:28

Hang in there and keep at it. I hope you can get the lawyer straightened out soon, as that can mess up everything if they will not communicate with you. You can also schedule some counciling on your time too for when he gets back on your son. ON the lawyer, if she continues to refuse to answer, contact the bar association in your area, and see if you can get something done.  Best of blessings and take care,
Maraleh

03/14/2008 18:52:28

I am not trying to turn any attention to me so PLEASE don't take it
that way. This comes from the "keep up the fight BECAUSE YOU STILL HAVE
A BATTLE GROUND TO FIGHT ON" story. I would trade you lives right now
Bro. My son tried to commit suicide a month ago because of the stress
that our divorce is causing... and I am not allowed any where near my
kids because of my wifes antics. Don't let up with him. Tell him that
you understand that he is stressed out by this and you really
understand how hard it is on him. Tell him that you understand why he
acted out (face it, we all act out at times) but that it was probably
not the right thing to do. He needs to understand that you and his mom
and in kind of a battle. Its not the way its supposed to work in life
but sometimes it happens and he really needs to understand that for him
to fight a battle too is not going to help fix the situation between
you and his mom. Put it in "mans" terms with him. " You are the man
buddy... try not to let the battle bring you down." kind of stuff. Work
on chainging his focus to helping you two get through it instead of
adding to the stress. Do it simply and ask for his "help". That may get
him to loosen up a little. Would for me at that age anyway. Just a
thought but don't give up and for sake, don't EVER trash on the one that probably deserves it in front of him. I know that may sound like common sense but heat of the moment stuff does a lot of damage. heavens knows I'd like to strangle to fudge out of my wife right now but its just a low time that will pass in a few hours

03/14/2008 18:04:53

You do the talking bit, he's listening : ). He'll talk about it when he has the words to say.
Give him time.

03/14/2008 16:52:59

I feel for you Checker. I know what it's like, I've been where you are. My son still has some issues and won't talk to me about them. The only thing I can say is that things will get better, life will go on.

Hang in there, stick to your guns with your ex, and just love your kids.

Canuck

03/14/2008 16:36:09

well. first of all. i was in the same possetion as him. and you cant do much about it and no book will help you. as for your ex..... this happens and again. its going to be ruff. over time things may patch up between you two as in your not the ex but the father of your kid. as of now, the best thing you can do with your kid is to not stop talking to him and do your best to make him happy with the time you got. the main reason he is against you is maybe because he feels its your fault. he may not want to talk about your situation but its always best to explain to him he has nothing todo with it. it wouldnt hurt to use his hobbies to get you two closer again. if all is done right he may be normal again in about 5 months.... but let him have his way and not talking to him only will damage everything that counts in life and may end up not seeing him for..... i would say was 9 years like me.... but thats only because my father looked up my house on the internet and knocked on my door randomly. me and my father are not close at all and are barley friends. dont let that happen to you. you may not be married but you two are parents and parents he needs when he grows up.