I am a mother of 5 who is doing her best to be a good mother to my five boys. My oldest has autism, which has brought me to my knees in pain and anguish over the heartache and challenges.  I truly commit to bringing the spirit into our home as much as possible.  We've gotten rid of the TV, and invested in great family movies. We've thrown away Rock, and instead listen to uplifting, happy, music that brings the spirit into our home.  The home is the only place the influences of the world can stay out.  Since making these changes, the changes in my boys is signifigant, and I know I'm on the right path! 

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The reason why I asked, is the question is dealing with your blog statement. I should of added more to the comment but did not want to comment on something without having aditional information on your life.

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I think it is almost the same as me telling my family and friends I was going to be a surrogate.  They looked at me like I was crazy!!  They couldn't understand why I felt the need to help someone in that sort of way. 

What I would do is explain to them that you have the opportunity to have a biological child by means of a surrogate.  That you are able to trust another person with your most valuable possession.  That for a short time another caring family will be watching over your baby.  You will get the whole "why not adpot" question from almost everyone.  But this is an opportunity for you to tell them that surrogacy is another option for families.  There is NOTHING wrong, even scriptually, with doing it.  Everything is done in the Dr's office and yes sometimes you have to explain that your DH did not have to have sex with this other woman.  People actually think that is the way it works?!?!

However, in the end...it is not what anyone else thinks.  Once your child is in your arms you will indeed be the most happiest mom in the world.  The looks, the questions, the comments will mean nothing!

My in-laws probably never understood why I chose to do it, but they were caring and supportive once they knew.  Not everyone can go this route and for those that can it is a great alternative to the greuling adoption process.

I love talking about surrogacy - so if you ever want to talk more I'm always open.  When is the expected delivery date?  Did you wind up going through an agency?